For Goodness Sake

Saturday, February 16, 2019

Hello,

Well.  It has happened again!  Another senseless mass shooting has taken place here in Aurora, Illinois at a manufacturing workplace.   The shooter reportedly opened fire after he was told that his employment with the company was terminated.  He killed five employees and wounded five police officers during a shootout.  The police killed the shooter during the exchange of fire.

According to this CNN report from about a year ago, here’s where the United States stand compared to other countries when it comes to gun violence.

“There are more public mass shootings in America than in any other country in the world.   The U.S. makes up less than 5% of the world’s population, but holds 31% of global mass shooters.  The countries with the most mass shootings from 1966 to 2012 are the United States with 90; Philippines with 18; Russia with 15; Yemen with 11; France with 10.”

There it is.  Now, what are we going to do about it?  I know that we are better than this.  We know better than this.

This may come off as “simple thinking” but I honestly believe that people are good.  If we spread goodness, advocate for goodness, uphold goodness, protect goodness, live goodness, breathe goodness, project goodness, legislate goodness, come from a place of goodness in all areas of our living; we could reduce those numbers drastically.  For goodness sake everyone, let’s just do it.

Prayers, condolences, and love to the families and friends of all the victims of this tragedy.

Be sure to check out https://www.youtube.com/MarilynsCafeSociety.  Also like, subscribe, and/or follow me on my social media platforms at marilynscafesoc on Twitter; Marilyn’s Café Society on Facebook and YouTube; and www.marilynscafesociety.com.

Live. Laugh. Love.

Marilyn

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Being Authentic and Relatable

Saturday, February 9th, 2019

Hey there.
As promised, here is this week’s blog. As stated during the “live” broadcast today, this has been a challenging week. It’s not that I didn’t have content or the time to blog. I mean, I have a lot to blog about but I chose not to share because I was concerned that I might over share.

We are living in a time when many believe that in order to be relatable, we must show and tell to everything about ourselves if not “errrrthang”– your thoughts, beliefs, feelings, experiences, likes, dislikes, ups, downs, “inny or outy”, etc. LoL

I get it. People need to know that we are human and I want to be authentic when sharing.  So here we go. Ready?!! As I close this week’s blog, I am feeling disappointed because the Houston Rockets just lost to the Oklahoma City Thunder. I was excited at some point during the game because Houston had a 20 point lead.

More importantly, my mother and brother’s transition dates are approaching and no matter how hard I try not to think about it or feel sad. I do.

Ok. So, I’m sleepy and that’s all I got for this blog. For more on my thoughts and experiences, be sure to check out today’s short show on https://www.youtube.com/MarilynsCafeSociety. Also, check my social media platforms at marilynscafesoc on Twitter; Marilyn’s Café Society on Facebook and YouTube; and marilynscafesociety.com.

Live. Laugh. Love.

Marilyn

An Important Goal

Thursday, January 31, 2019

Hi.  Welcome to this week’s blog.

If you are in the regions where the temperatures have recently been well below zero, I hope that you are staying safe, warm and cozy.  The weather forecasters are predicting a “heat wave” (30 to 40 degrees above zero)  for U. S. mid-westerners on Super Bowl Sunday.  Please govern yourselves accordingly!  LoL!!  Oh wait.  Can I “laugh out loud” on a blog???!!!

During the show last Saturday, I shared some pointers on how to set and realize goals.  Today, I’m going to share one of my short-term, long-term and forever goals.  What is it you ask?  It is staying mentally and physically agile.  It is so important particularly as you get older.  Here’s a few basic ways to do so.

  1. Maintain healthy, loving social connections and social life. Adults need to “play” with others too.
  2. Continue to learn new things. It is excellent exercise for the brain.  The more you learn, the more you realize what you don’t know.
  3. Eat healthy. Remember what your parents said…”eat your fruit and vegetables”.
  4. Get plenty of daily exercise/activity. Dance, walk, jog, run, skate, play sports, etc.
  5. Get good sleep and rest.
  6. Find and/or maintain a hobby or activity that you enjoy doing.
  7. Pray, meditate, grow daily in your spiritual life.

Listen, if we don’t strive to meet this one goal of staying mentally and physically sharp, it would be difficult to reach more specific goals that we set in our lives.  Ok,

Well, there may or may not be a show this Saturday.  My plate is full right now but I am attempting to get it done.  Stay tuned and check my social media platforms at marilynscafesoc on Twitter; Marilyn’s Café Society on Facebook and YouTube; and marilynscafesociety.com.

Live. Laugh. Love.

Marilyn

Winter Time

Hello friends,

I truly struggled to come up with something to say on this edition of the blog.  I brainstormed.  Surfed the net.  Flipped through pages of magazines.  Nothing.  Is this what writer’s block feels like?

Anyway, I finally decided that I’ll write about the weather!  I know.  There are a myriad of other “hot topics” that I could chime in on. For example, I could share commentary on a follow-up on the R. Kelly blog; the kid who stared down the native American drummer; the government shutdown; another shooting in Florida; the Oscar nominations; etc.  However, I don’t want too. I simply don’t have anything to day.  I don’t want to address any of it.  At least not right now.  You know how it is when you just need a break. Right!?

And so, the weather it is.  Well, not daily weather as in today’s temperature or forecast but seasonal weather…specifically winter.  Winter wraps up the year with shorter days of light and cold or cooler temperatures.  Some forms of life even go into hibernation during this time of year!  Most flowers and other greenery retreats back to the ground from which they came. Even humans tend to slow down, become dull, or in some cases come to a standstill during winter months.  Some of us get sad, melancholy, or depressed.  Hearing and/or reading about the current affairs/state of the country and world can also have an impact on our disposition or state of mind.  We must use the downtime to reflect, plan, prepare.

People, we cannot sink into a world of despair!  Cheer up!  Spend more bonding time with family and friends.  Remember, spring is on the horizon.  Yes, more daylight, renewal, and growth is on the way!

Live. Laugh, Love.

Marilyn

 

Hurt People, Hurt People.

Tuesday, January 15th, 2019

Hey there.  I made it to the blog again!  This time it just took a week.  What prompted this blog?  Well, I recently watched the “Surviving R. Kelly Docu-Series” on Lifetime TV and was moved to comment.

As I reflect on the life and legacy of Dr. Martin L. King Jr. (today is his actual birthday), it pains me that we (as a society) are still addressing acts of disrespect and cruelty towards children, women, and fellow human beings in general.   Dr. King championed the fight for civil and equal human rights for all and specifically African-Americans.  The result?   Legislation and laws were passed to ensure that we all could walk in Godfidence knowing that we are all equal and must be treated accordingly.  Dr. King and other freedom fighters sacrificed so that we could live out our God given dignity, respect, and the right to pursue and achieve our dreams.

Imagine that while some were in the process of reaping the benefits and/or taking advantage of opportunities created as a result of the hard fought civil/human rights work, a 7 year old African-American boy experienced his first sexual violation within the walls of his own home by a trusted member of his family. These unspeakable human violations would go on for another 6 or 7 years. Imagine the hurt and emotional scars.  No one protected him.  No one came to his rescue.  No one but God.  His mother made sure that he and his brothers went to church.

Some how.  Some way.  This man-child discovered his gift of music.  Along the way, God placed a mentor in his life who not only helped him hone his gift of music but also reinforced his belief in God and the Gospel.  As he began to make music professionally, all he could produce, arrange, and write about was what dominated his thoughts.  What he learned about way too early in life.  Sex.

It is my understanding that sexual abuse and traumas can often stunt or alter an individual’s brain development, particularly emotionally.  If professional help is not sought OR divine intervention doesn’t happen, a person can easily begin to replay their childhood traumas.   Worst case scenario, the one who was hurt begins to hurt others.  Hurt people.  Hurt people.

Did R. Kelly hurt those women as alleged in the docu-series OR was he living the “rockstar” life in every sense of the word and they were willing participants?

Tune in this Saturday, January 19, 2019 at noon for the rest of the commentary.  https://www.youtube.com/MarilynsCafeSociety

Until then, be sure to Live. Laugh. Love.

Peace,

Marilyn

Spread “More Goodness” in 2019

Happy New Year!

I raise my proverbial glass to you and say “Cheers” to making 2019 a year of “more goodness” in our individual lives and the world.

Listen, we can find ways to spread “more goodness” to others, no matter what is going on in this world.

Yes, you can find a way to spread “more goodness” to others, no matter your station in life.

There is no question that you can remain unaffected by the negativity around you so that you can spread “more goodness” to others.

What does “more goodness” look like?  Well, it has many “looks”.  Here are a few…

Sharing a smile; making someone laugh; stopping someone from being mistreated or bullied; making the righteous business decision;  letting someone else get the close parking spot; calling out and eradicating discrimination and injustice; sharing a good book; taking better care of yourself; praying for someone; etc.   Obviously, “more goodness” can also be tangible or material.  For example, helping someone who needs financial assistance; providing opportunities to overlooked individuals; donating money, unused clothes, shoes, and other items to charity; etc.

We’ve heard this before, right?  Some have called this “random acts of kindness” or “paying it forward”.  Well, I challenge you to be an Ambassador of more that goodness in 2019.

Chime in here to let me know what you did OR how you received “more goodness” in your life.  I can’t wait to hear from you.

Live. Laugh. Love.

Marilyn

MCS Radio Show Recap- Saturday, November 18th, 2018

Hello!  It’s me with more recaps of older radio shows and blogging.  I hope you’re well.  So far we’ve had a very interesting year.  I hope that you’re keeping up with the YouTube shows that I’ve hosted since sometime in February.  The first few videos were posted on Facebook only.  Be sure to visit both and like and subscribe.  The links are at the end of this post.

1st Hour:  Brianna was guest co-host.

On this day in history…

*In 1883, the U. S. adopted the Standard Time and set up four (4) zones— Eastern, Central, Mountain, and Pacific. It was all due to America’s railroad system and the ability to do long distance traveling.

*In 1928, Mickey Mouse appeared for the first time in Steamboat Willie, with Walt Disney himself doing the voice.

*In 1963, push-button telephones made their debut commercially.  Despite this dynamic debut, the rotary dial phones remained customers favorite for many more years.

Brianna presented Born on this day.  Here’s a few…

*in 1923, Alan Shepard, the first American in space

*in 1942, Linda Evans, actress

*in 1970, Mike Epps, actor/comedian

Cafe News consisted of  alarming stories of sexual assault and violence are coming out. Also, the offices of the Chicago Tribune have moved.  Be sure to check out the audio here.

Café Talk:  Brianna and I chimed in.  Do you have or will you buy a Christmas tree that’s not the traditional color of green?  We also read a few social media responses to the question.  The color purple was the most popular.

Another 12 Saturdays Til Christmas Gift Bag was then given away!  Listeners were also reminded to get their tickets for the Colors of Christmas Concert at the Rialto and to tune in for the 10th Annual Christmas Celebration Broadcast event on Saturday, December 2nd.

2nd Hour:   Brianna shared Entertainment News.  The audio is here.

By 12:30pm we had to wrap due to a scheduled High School Football game.  No show next week due to Thanksgiving Basketball Tournament.  Have a Happy Thanksgiving everyone!!!

As promised in the intro,  here are the video links.

https://www.YouTube.com/MarilynsCafeSociety and https://www.Facebook.com/MarilynsCafeSociety

MCS Radio Show Recap – Saturday, November 11th, 2017

Hi guys!  I’m back again with more recaps for older radio shows and blogging.  Finding time has been a challenge but I thank you all for your patience.   Here’s how the Veteran’s Day show went down.

1st hour ONLY show.  Sharon Wilson-Foster of the National Hook-Up of Black Women was the in-studio guest.

On this day in history…

*In 1921, U. S. President Warren Harding dedicated the Tomb of the Unknowns at Arlington National Cemetery in Virginia.

*In 2001, President George W. Bush and leaders from around the world gathered in New York City to honor those who lost their lives during the 911 terrorist attack.

Sharon took on Born on this day-

*in 1744, Abigail Adams, wife, confidante, and advisor to U.S. President John Adams

*in 1929, LaVern Baker, pioneer of the R&B sound.

*in 1962, Demi Moore, actress

*in 1974, Leonardo DiCaprio, actor

During Café News, I reported that more than 600,000 Americans signed up for insurance coverage under the Affordable Care Act in the first 4 days of the new enrollment period despite the Trump Administration’s effort to undo much of the 2010 law.  Also, during a speaking engagement at an Axios event in Philadelphia, the former founder of Facebook and Napster co-founder, Sean Parker, admitted that Facebook was created to become addictive.  Be sure to check out the audio here

Speaking of Facebook, Café Talk’s topic was…Are you addicted to Social Media?  Sharon and I chimed in and read a few social media responses to the question.

I then chatted with Sharon about her role with the NHBW-Joliet which led to her talking about the upcoming 26th Founders Day event (the Gold Star Gala).  Click here for the audio.

The sixth – 12 Saturdays Til Christmas Gift Bag was then given away!  I also reminded everyone to mark their calendars for the 10th annual Christmas Celebration Broadcast.

MCS Radio Show Recap – Saturday, Nov. 4th, 2017

Well hello there!  I truly hope that the new year has been good to you!!!  Yes, I’m finally back to the business of recapping the shows and blogging.  Tonight I will get as many of the older posts up as possible so that I can get to blogging about current situations and broadcasts.

1st hour show ONLY. –In-studio guests: Brianna La’Shay, co-host and Jim Chuporak of Just Us and Just Jim, singer and entertainer.

On this day in history…

*In 1879, James and John Ritty of Dayton, Ohio, patented the first cash register, known as Ritty’s Incorruptible Cashier.

*In 2008, Barack Obama, a Democratic U.S. senator from Illinois, was the first African American elected president of the United States, taking 338 electoral votes to 161 for Republican John McCain.

Brianna shared Born on this day-
*journalist Walter Cronkite in 1916
*former U.S. first lady Laura Bush in 1946 (age 71)
*comedian Kathy Griffin in 1960 (age 57)
*actor Ralph Macchio in 1961 (age 56)
*actor Matthew McConaughey in 1969 (age 48)
*entertainer/actor/songwriter/hip hop mogul, Sean Puffy Combs in 1969 (age 48)

Café News

*EMP Drills taking place by the Dept. of Defense on November 4-6th.

*The Attorney General of South Dakota has sent a request to the United States Supreme Court to review whether it can collect sales taxes from out-of-state internet retailers and 35 other states have backed their request. Typically, an online retailer only has to collect sales tax in states where they have a physical presence, such as a storefront or a distribution center. That loophole cost states $17.2 billion in lost sales taxes last year, according to the National Conference of State Legislatures. And now they (meaning the states) want to collect.

*After 10 years, the iPhone still has the juice! USA Today is reporting that by the time the iPhone 10 went on sale Friday morning, buyers everywhere filled whole city blocks waiting in line at their nearest Apple Store.

Café Talk – How much was the biggest tip that you left a waitress/waiter while dining out?

Inspiration behind Cafe Talk is a article that I read in USA Today about the big $1,000 tip that a waitress received from Christie Teigen!  We all chimed in and read a few social media responses to the question

We chatted with Jim Chuporak about his singing career, singing groups, and upcoming performance with the Christmas Celebration Broadcast.  I can’t wait for you all to hear him!

The fifth – 12 Saturdays Til Christmas Gift Bag was given away!  Then, we quickly took a look at what was trending on Social Media.  Number one trending…EMP Drill Days!

 

MCS Radio Show Recap – Saturday, October 28th, 2017

Thank you everyone for your extreme patience in waiting for the weekly recaps. Know that I’m diligently working to catch up. Here’s what happened on this show.

Cafe Talk: Halloween is just a few days away, share the last or most recent time that you were truly afraid.

1st hour:

Just a couple of items were highlighted during the “This Day In History” segment–

In 1636, Harvard College was founded in Massachusetts. It’s now known as Harvard University.
In 1919, Congress passed the Volstead Act that enforced the constitutional amendment that prohibited the use of alcoholic beverages. The ban on booze lasted more than a decade. Then in 1933, Congress finally repealed the Volstead Act.

Brianna shared celebrity or famous birthdays before I touched on a few Cafe News items–

Airline travelers can expect an increase in ticket prices due to the rising cost of fuel. Most major airlines reported an increase in fuel prices as high as 20% in some cases in the last year.
Ecommerce titan, Alibaba has purchased 49% of the Brooklyn Nets valuing the NBA team at $2.3 billion dollars.
Next month we’ll welcome in Election Day (for some), Veterans Day, and the Thanksgiving Holiday. But few of us know about November being National Novel Writing Month. Author, world-traveler, Kay Bolden, stopped by to remind us about the nanawrimo.org site that helps individuals get started on their novel. Brianna and I took the challenge to write a novel in 30 days. Ha! We’ll see how that works out. You all can go to marilynscafesociety.com for the audio.

The Cafe Talk segment was fun! Brianna and I shared as well as read comments from Facebook. I then opened the phone lines for a lucky caller to win the 12 Saturdays Til Christmas Gift Bag. Congratulations to Brian S. of Joliet, IL for winnnig!!

Before closing out the first hour, I reminded listeners about the upcoming 10th Annual Christmas Celebration show set for Saturday, December 2nd, 2017.

2nd Hour

Entertainment Talk included banter about Dancing with the Stars; Justin Timberlake performing at the 2018 Super Bowl Half Time show; Janet Jackson’s State of the World Tour landed in Chicago; movie director, Ava DuVernay and the creators of the first Sesame Street muppet on the autism spectrum were awarded the Smithsonian magazine’s American Ingenuity Awards. Other 2017 recipients include, musician, John Legend; and NASA scientist, Natalie Batalha. A total of eight recipients were honored in categories that include technology, performing arts, visual art, life sciences, physical sciences, history, social progress, and youth.

After Passion for Fashion, which included talk about Halloween makeup and fashion, we talked more entertainment. Before closing the show, we shared important Halloween information,

Be sure to tune in next week and follow me @marilynscafesoc on Twitter.com and Marilyn’s Cafe Society on Facebook.

Peace.