Changes

Hello there my friends.  I apologize for the delay in getting this posted.  I got distracted with some other projects and dropped the ball on completing this one!  Anyway, here we are.  I hope that you have been experiencing a wonderful week.

Remember that beautiful song entitled, “Everything Must Change” that was written and sung by Bernard Ighner, and produced and released by Quincy Jones in the early 1970s?  Since then, many others have released their own rendition of it.  I particularly enjoy listening to George Benson’s version.  Hmmm.  Changes.

The appearance of the novel coronavirus has forced our world to change in incredible ways—

How we as humans interact and socialize;

How we move around in public spaces and places;

How we do business and work;

How we educate and learn.

Now, what some once said was impossible is now possible and in many cases, necessary.  Work from home is now common place; television network and local broadcasters broadcast from home; religious and worship services only stream online now; choirs, musical groups, and musicians sing together via video from their own respective homes.  Wow!  Changes.

Friends, undoubtedly in life in general, we will experience natural and unnatural, physical, business, work, relationship, intellectual, emotional, and spiritual changes.  The song mentioned above has a line in it that says “There are not many things in life you can be sure of except that rain falls from the sky and sun lights up the sky and hummingbirds do fly.”  Well, I beg to differ.  One other thing that does not and will not ever change is God and his love for his creations and children.  And, no matter what kind of change we experience in life/the world, he will always make it (change it) for our good/benefit!

Changes.  Oh boy!  I could go on about other kinds of “changes” but I’ll just leave this right here.  Have a safe and healthy Memorial Day Weekend everyone!

The next show date is set for Saturday, May 23rd, 2020 on https://youtube.com/MarilynsCafeSociety.  And, be sure to “like”, subscribe, SHARE, and follow my social media platforms at https://twitter.com/marilynscafesoc; https://facebook.com/Marilyn’s Café Society; and marilynscafesociety.com.  Peace.

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A Whole New World

Hey there.  How are you?  Are you going stir crazy like me?

Well, if you are, I hope that it’s in a good way.  After shopping for some essentials today, I took a short walk to take the edge off.  It really got the endorphins going and felt good.

In my state, we are all still sheltered in place for the most part.  By the end of the month, we will be able to go out to retail stores and restaurants to shop but with limitations.  Social distancing protocols will be in place; and we will have to wear masks as well.  Hmmm. Why do I hear Disney’s Aladdin song, “A Whole New World”, in my head?  You know, we keep hearing that this world will not be the same due to Covid 19.  Will the changes be similar to the post 911 changes or more drastic?  Only time will tell.

In the meantime, let’s stay focused everyone.  Grieve. Rest.  Regroup.  Then, get back to achieving whatever it is you’d like to.  Get your 10,000 plus hours in.  And, remember to be a blessing to others in the process.

As always, I pray that you continue to stay safe and be well.

The next show date is set for Saturday, May 16th, 2020 on https://youtube.com/MarilynsCafeSociety.  And, be sure to “like”, subscribe, SHARE, and follow my social media platforms at https://twitter.com/marilynscafesoc; https://facebook.com/Marilyn’s Café Society; and marilynscafesociety.com.  Peace.

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This…

Hello everyone.  I hope that you all are doing well and staying safe.

Well, for me the last 4 weeks have been emotionally draining.  In the last week, my family and I funeralized and laid my father to rest.  He transitioned on Tuesday, April 14th, but due to the mayhem of COVID 19, we were not able to take care of all of this until just last week/weekend.   Also, we could not have a normal funeral service because only 10 people at a time could be with him; everyone had to wear protective gear (masks, gloves, etc.) as well as stay at least 6 feet apart.   It all seemed so impersonal—soo unlike my father.

For those of you who have been with me and the radio show for some time, you know that I have shared parts of my life over the years with you all.  One part that I shared was that my parents divorced when I was 8 or 9 years old.  As a result, me and my siblings were co-parented.  We lived with our mother but spent weekends, alternate holidays, and summers with my father.  Here’s much more…

My father was born on August 16, 1934 in Canton, MS to Florida B. and Wallace May Sr.  He was third youngest of twelve.  He attended Cameron St. High School and Alcorn State University.  He also served in the United States Military (as he was quick to point out, non-combative, just in communications) and was honorably discharged. My father received Christ at an early age although over the course of his life, you rarely found him in a church. However, you better know that he was a true believer. He was a dedicated member of the Elks Lodge most of his adult life. He worked for a furniture company in Canton, Mississippi before migrating to Chicago, Illinois to work for Ford Motor Company.  He was a Line Supervisor when he retired in 1998 after 30 years of service.  We still marvel at the fact that he never owned a car.  After retirement, he enjoyed travelling between Chicago, IL and Canton as well as other places in the United States.

He married twice in life.  First to my mother, then years later after another special relationship ended; he met and married his wife of the last 37 years of his life, Nervine.  He also loved his children (I’d like to think especially me, his shadow lol), grandchildren, and others. My father was a real man who cooked.  I remember enjoying his delicious breakfast and dinner meals. He also enjoyed working with his hands, as carpenter, gardener, and player of his imaginary piano. When I was younger, he told me that he could actually play the piano (just a little bit) at one point in his young life.  You see, his mother was a prolific pianist as were some of his sisters.  He loved singing too as well as listening to jazz.  His love for music was second to none.

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My father told us that when he was younger, one of his favorite past times was baseball so he played in and later coached a team for a time while still in Mississippi.  So fast forward to life in Chicago, every summer, he would often gather us and our friends along with other children in the neighborhood to take us to play softball.  We also enjoyed many skating trips too.

He had numerous friends and was instantaneously loved by all that he met, young and old.  Everyone enjoyed talking with him and just being in his company.   No, he was not a rocket scientist, supreme court justice, nor perfect- but we love him unconditionally as he is/was. This, is not easy.  We are grateful for the love memories and along with my mother and brother, will miss him so much.

Well, continue to stay safe and be well.

The next show date is planned for  Saturday, May 9th, 2020 on  https://www.youtube.com/MarilynsCafeSociety.  And, be sure to “like”, subscribe, SHARE, and follow my social media platforms at marilynscafesoc on Twitter; Marilyn’s Café Society on Facebook, YouTube; and marilynscafesociety.com.  Peace.

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Thank You!

Everyone,

Thank you for your calls, texts, messages, and notes of condolences.  As you know, you have truly “lifted” me.

I’m not sure if I’ll have a blog in me next week so until possibly then, remember to stay safe, protected, and well.

Join me on the next show date– Saturday, May 9th, 2020 on  https://www.youtube.com/MarilynsCafeSociety.  And, be sure to “like”, subscribe, SHARE, and follow my social media platforms at marilynscafesoc on Twitter; Marilyn’s Café Society on Facebook, YouTube; and marilynscafesociety.com.  Peace.

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Fog

Friends, I hope that you are enjoying and making the good of this unplanned “time out” that we all are experiencing.  More importantly, I pray that you and your loved ones are safe and well.  For the most part, I and my loved ones are well thank God!  However, I feel like I’m in a fog.  And quite honestly, this “foggy” feeling started well before this Covid 19 pandemic.

Fog is described as a cloud of small water droplets that is suspended in the air near the Earth’s surface.  Fog is known to reduce or cover visibility.  I, now, admit that I have overwhelmed myself into a “fog”.  On top of the COVID 19 pandemic happening, work responsibilities; the rigors of producing a weekly show; the discipline of writing this weekly blog; reading the self improvement books/programs/seminars; managing the day-to-day responsibilities of life; maintaining relationships; solving or resolving problems; overcoming health challenges; praying for others to overcome health challenges; and just always doing something to feel “productive”; has left me feeling stressed and “foggy”.  I have been operating in reduced visibility and at times couldn’t even see at all.  I just kept doing, kept going, and kept working in a “fog”.  My goodness, I thank God for carrying me!

Yes, ironically, I now “see” that I’ve been functioning, producing, and achieving all while in a “fog”.  The good news is that this “time out” situation has presented opportunity for some of the fog to dissipate.  I slept in until about 9am this morning.  I didn’t look at any COVID 19 updates.  I reduced my screen and device time.  I stepped out in the yard and took in some sun.  I baked a cake.  I listened to good music.  I sipped champagne.  I attended virtual Wednesday night church service.  I finished this blog.

Friends, are you or have you been in “a fog” too?  If so, thank God for keeping you!  And, know that when overwhelmed, it’s okay to take a “time out” to help clear the fog.  Please continue to stay safe and be well.

Join me this Saturday, April 11th, 2020 on  https://www.youtube.com/MarilynsCafeSociety.  And, be sure to “like”, subscribe, SHARE, and follow my social media platforms at marilynscafesoc on Twitter; Marilyn’s Café Society on Facebook, YouTube; and marilynscafesociety.com.  Peace.

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Second Quarter 2020

Like it or not friends, today (Wednesday, April 1st) starts the second quarter of 2020. Based on what we’ve been experiencing in the world, I bet everyone has to some degree put their plans/goals/dreams /on hold.   Aside from the COVID-19 pandemic, some of us have even more very real concerns and distractions to navigate.  I keep you all in prayer and please pray for me and my loved ones!  Despite the setbacks and pain of first quarter 2020, Second Quarter 2020, will be much better!  Amen.

There may or may not be a show this Saturday, April 4th, 2020 on  https://www.youtube.com/MarilynsCafeSociety.  Be sure to “like”, subscribe, SHARE, and follow my social media platforms at marilynscafesoc on Twitter; Marilyn’s Café Society on Facebook, YouTube; and marilynscafesociety.com.  Peace.

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America’s Powershift

What’s happening friends?  I pray that all is good with you and your loved ones.  So, are you using this “time-off” wisely?  Please don’t squander it.  You’ve been saying if I just had 2 weeks off (in some of your cases, paid time off) so that I can finish this or so I can do that.  Remember?  Welp!  Here it is.  Get to it!

As for me, among other things, I have been using this current week (last week was somewhat of a blur as this pandemic thing was still being processed) to start and finish reading books that I’ve ordered or collected.   “Powershift” written by Daymond John with Daniel Paisner is one of them.  As I read this book and think about the world’s current situation particularly the United States, I am more than convinced that we are experiencing a major “powershift”!  Key points that are made in this book are the importance of mastering influence, negotiation, and relationship.  Now keep in mind that this is a blog and not a dissertation, so I’ll keep it short and super simple.

Influence.  While the United States of America is one of the most influential countries in the world, those who run it have come to realize just how much “influence” they’ve given away over the last few decades.  Yes.  At the expense of the American worker and to “save a dollar” or to put more dollars in the pockets of the greedy, they outsourced the manufacturing of important goods and products to others.  Now, they are scrambling to get those same products and goods made in this country.  The “powershift” here is that we should keep our “influence” and continue to make our own products and goods especially those that we have the resources needed to do so right here in America.  The message and impression will be clear.  We are indeed the most influential country in the world–respect us.

Negotiation.  Listen, the leaders of the United States of America know our true strengths as well as the strengths of the other countries in the world.  They must use that knowledge to negotiate future deals with others in the world that will best serve all the people of the United States of America first and foremost.  Of course there has to be something in the deal for the country in which they’re negotiating with too.  Whether it’s negotiating trade deals for products and goods that we don’t have resources to make in this country or vice versa, the end result should be as close to a “win-win” as possible.  However, this country cannot be in a position where it needs a product or good from them and can’t get it.   So, leaders must be cautious when negotiating with those countries that have a tendency to be adversarial with us.  This country must place high value on and negotiate win-win deals with its own manufacturers, creatives, producers, etc.  Encourage them to continue to be innovative and world leaders in their respective industries.  By doing so, they will ensure that the “powershift” back to America is strong and lasting.  Remember the “Made in America” and “Buy in America” movement?

Relationships.  The United States must first connect with and nurture relationships with American businesses, companies, corporations, suppliers, producers, etc.  You do this by supporting their work and efforts.  Our businesses are our capital!  Our people and workers are our capital.  No matter what, when America suffers a crisis, American businesses, workers, and citizens step up to do “whatever” needs to be done.  It’s because they’re connected to this country.  Despite this country’s flaws and missteps, they value and love this country.  Leaders of the United States, let’s continue to build, strengthen, and respect the businesses and workers in this country.  United States leaders should continue to do the same for the allied countries of the world as well. Build, preserve, protect and respect those relationships.  Work relationships and make them last.  As for the adversarial countries that we must do business with or have relationship with, prayerfully and cautiously establish, build, restore trust so that the “powershift” will be in America’s favor.

Okay you all.  I’m going to get back to the Powershift book.  I’m just about finished and then I’ll dive into the next one.  Meanwhile, remember this. Human beings need other human beings not just for business but to also live and thrive.  We must learn to co-exist on planet earth in a way that will benefit all mankind, period.  And with God, it’s possible.  #Powershift

Tune in Saturday, March 28th, 2020 for another edition of the show on  https://www.youtube.com/MarilynsCafeSociety.  Be sure to “like”, subscribe, SHARE, and follow my social media platforms at marilynscafesoc on Twitter; Marilyn’s Café Society on Facebook, YouTube; and marilynscafesociety.com.  Peace.

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More Than Enough!

Friends, in response to some of your questions about why the show did not broadcast this past Saturday, the answer is my brain was busy processing all the negative news as well as actions that I observed in the weeks surrounding the coronavirus pandemic.

Now for those who haven’t heard, mid-week last week the World Health Organization declared the virus outbreak pandemic status.  By Friday of last week, President Trump declared a national emergency in the United States.  And before all of that, the sports world came to a halt, international travel advisories and bans were issued, major events were postponed or delayed, and bleach/anti-bacterial wipes, toilet tissue (people’s latest obsession), medical masks, and other paper goods were flying off the shelf like crazy!  As we approached this past weekend, many school systems were closed, more people were quarantined, and a new phrase “social distancing” emerged.  Additionally, bottled water, non-perishable food items, and food in general were difficult to find in stores!  Worse than all of that was the behavior of other human beings that I observed.

You all, I’ve been living on planet earth for a few decades now and I’ve heard, seen, and even experienced ugly, low-level, selfish human behavior.   So when I witnessed a few instances of bad behavior from people as they shopped (stock-piled) goods in the last week, all I could do was shake my head.  People were hoarding so much that some stores resorted to posting signs telling people to limit the number of items that they purchase because other shoppers are in need as well.  Someone even showed me a few video clips of people physically fighting over toilet tissue and paper towels!  Not to down play this current coronavirus crisis, but how would people behave if this country really got in trouble?

Listen, I get how humans have that tendency to go into survival mode when fear and panic sets in but Come on “ye of little faith”.  There is “more than enough”!

So, no.  There was no show last Saturday because I didn’t have a good one in me and I certainly did not want to regurgitate what everyone else was talking about!  I just needed to pause for a moment to process all of this!

Everyone, the bottom line is this.  God is a good!  If you believe, he will supply all your needs!  And, certainly not to the detriment of other believers!  Fear and greed is not of God!  Let’s continue to remind others that there is “more than enough”.

Check me out Saturday, March 21st, 2020 on  https://www.youtube.com/MarilynsCafeSociety.  Be sure to “like”, subscribe, SHARE, and follow my social media platforms at marilynscafesoc on Twitter; Marilyn’s Café Society on Facebook, YouTube; and marilynscafesociety.com.  Peace.

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Just One Hour!

Sooo, you’re missing that lost hour, huh? Just about everyone that I have chatted with in the last few days admit it. Springing forward came with a price.

Here’s what I’ve been doing to help my sleeping habits/patterns adjust:

• Go to sleep an hour earlier.
• Sleep in a little longer on days off.
• In mornings increase my consumption of foods that give energy. (fruit, veggies, natural teas, vitamin supplements, etc.)
• Take a nice warm bath or shower.
• In evenings create a relaxing environment with soft music or not; sip a soothing tea or glass of wine; and

Finally, my friends, just toughen up and deal with it. Eventually our internal clocks will get use to the time change. Weren’t we just reminded in last week’s blog about the spiritual “strength” that we can call on?

Alright! Enough of the pep talk!  It’s just one hour. Carry on.

Tune in to the next show this Saturday, March 14th, 2020 on https://www.youtube.com/MarilynsCafeSociety. Be sure to “like”, subscribe, SHARE, and follow my social media platforms at marilynscafesoc on Twitter; Marilyn’s Café Society on Facebook, YouTube; and marilynscafesociety.com. Peace.

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