Hurt People, Hurt People.

Tuesday, January 15th, 2019

Hey there.  I made it to the blog again!  This time it just took a week.  What prompted this blog?  Well, I recently watched the “Surviving R. Kelly Docu-Series” on Lifetime TV and was moved to comment.

As I reflect on the life and legacy of Dr. Martin L. King Jr. (today is his actual birthday), it pains me that we (as a society) are still addressing acts of disrespect and cruelty towards children, women, and fellow human beings in general.   Dr. King championed the fight for civil and equal human rights for all and specifically African-Americans.  The result?   Legislation and laws were passed to ensure that we all could walk in Godfidence knowing that we are all equal and must be treated accordingly.  Dr. King and other freedom fighters sacrificed so that we could live out our God given dignity, respect, and the right to pursue and achieve our dreams.

Imagine that while some were in the process of reaping the benefits and/or taking advantage of opportunities created as a result of the hard fought civil/human rights work, a 7 year old African-American boy experienced his first sexual violation within the walls of his own home by a trusted member of his family. These unspeakable human violations would go on for another 6 or 7 years. Imagine the hurt and emotional scars.  No one protected him.  No one came to his rescue.  No one but God.  His mother made sure that he and his brothers went to church.

Some how.  Some way.  This man-child discovered his gift of music.  Along the way, God placed a mentor in his life who not only helped him hone his gift of music but also reinforced his belief in God and the Gospel.  As he began to make music professionally, all he could produce, arrange, and write about was what dominated his thoughts.  What he learned about way too early in life.  Sex.

It is my understanding that sexual abuse and traumas can often stunt or alter an individual’s brain development, particularly emotionally.  If professional help is not sought OR divine intervention doesn’t happen, a person can easily begin to replay their childhood traumas.   Worst case scenario, the one who was hurt begins to hurt others.  Hurt people.  Hurt people.

Did R. Kelly hurt those women as alleged in the docu-series OR was he living the “rockstar” life in every sense of the word and they were willing participants?

Tune in this Saturday, January 19, 2019 at noon for the rest of the commentary.  https://www.youtube.com/MarilynsCafeSociety

Until then, be sure to Live. Laugh. Love.

Peace,

Marilyn

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Spread “More Goodness” in 2019

Happy New Year!

I raise my proverbial glass to you and say “Cheers” to making 2019 a year of “more goodness” in our individual lives and the world.

Listen, we can find ways to spread “more goodness” to others, no matter what is going on in this world.

Yes, you can find a way to spread “more goodness” to others, no matter your station in life.

There is no question that you can remain unaffected by the negativity around you so that you can spread “more goodness” to others.

What does “more goodness” look like?  Well, it has many “looks”.  Here are a few…

Sharing a smile; making someone laugh; stopping someone from being mistreated or bullied; making the righteous business decision;  letting someone else get the close parking spot; calling out and eradicating discrimination and injustice; sharing a good book; taking better care of yourself; praying for someone; etc.   Obviously, “more goodness” can also be tangible or material.  For example, helping someone who needs financial assistance; providing opportunities to overlooked individuals; donating money, unused clothes, shoes, and other items to charity; etc.

We’ve heard this before, right?  Some have called this “random acts of kindness” or “paying it forward”.  Well, I challenge you to be an Ambassador of more that goodness in 2019.

Chime in here to let me know what you did OR how you received “more goodness” in your life.  I can’t wait to hear from you.

Live. Laugh. Love.

Marilyn