An Important Goal

Thursday, January 31, 2019

Hi.  Welcome to this week’s blog.

If you are in the regions where the temperatures have recently been well below zero, I hope that you are staying safe, warm and cozy.  The weather forecasters are predicting a “heat wave” (30 to 40 degrees above zero)  for U. S. mid-westerners on Super Bowl Sunday.  Please govern yourselves accordingly!  LoL!!  Oh wait.  Can I “laugh out loud” on a blog???!!!

During the show last Saturday, I shared some pointers on how to set and realize goals.  Today, I’m going to share one of my short-term, long-term and forever goals.  What is it you ask?  It is staying mentally and physically agile.  It is so important particularly as you get older.  Here’s a few basic ways to do so.

  1. Maintain healthy, loving social connections and social life. Adults need to “play” with others too.
  2. Continue to learn new things. It is excellent exercise for the brain.  The more you learn, the more you realize what you don’t know.
  3. Eat healthy. Remember what your parents said…”eat your fruit and vegetables”.
  4. Get plenty of daily exercise/activity. Dance, walk, jog, run, skate, play sports, etc.
  5. Get good sleep and rest.
  6. Find and/or maintain a hobby or activity that you enjoy doing.
  7. Pray, meditate, grow daily in your spiritual life.

Listen, if we don’t strive to meet this one goal of staying mentally and physically sharp, it would be difficult to reach more specific goals that we set in our lives.  Ok,

Well, there may or may not be a show this Saturday.  My plate is full right now but I am attempting to get it done.  Stay tuned and check my social media platforms at marilynscafesoc on Twitter; Marilyn’s Café Society on Facebook and YouTube; and marilynscafesociety.com.

Live. Laugh. Love.

Marilyn

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Winter Time

Hello friends,

I truly struggled to come up with something to say on this edition of the blog.  I brainstormed.  Surfed the net.  Flipped through pages of magazines.  Nothing.  Is this what writer’s block feels like?

Anyway, I finally decided that I’ll write about the weather!  I know.  There are a myriad of other “hot topics” that I could chime in on. For example, I could share commentary on a follow-up on the R. Kelly blog; the kid who stared down the native American drummer; the government shutdown; another shooting in Florida; the Oscar nominations; etc.  However, I don’t want too. I simply don’t have anything to day.  I don’t want to address any of it.  At least not right now.  You know how it is when you just need a break. Right!?

And so, the weather it is.  Well, not daily weather as in today’s temperature or forecast but seasonal weather…specifically winter.  Winter wraps up the year with shorter days of light and cold or cooler temperatures.  Some forms of life even go into hibernation during this time of year!  Most flowers and other greenery retreats back to the ground from which they came. Even humans tend to slow down, become dull, or in some cases come to a standstill during winter months.  Some of us get sad, melancholy, or depressed.  Hearing and/or reading about the current affairs/state of the country and world can also have an impact on our disposition or state of mind.  We must use the downtime to reflect, plan, prepare.

People, we cannot sink into a world of despair!  Cheer up!  Spend more bonding time with family and friends.  Remember, spring is on the horizon.  Yes, more daylight, renewal, and growth is on the way!

Live. Laugh, Love.

Marilyn

 

Hurt People, Hurt People.

Tuesday, January 15th, 2019

Hey there.  I made it to the blog again!  This time it just took a week.  What prompted this blog?  Well, I recently watched the “Surviving R. Kelly Docu-Series” on Lifetime TV and was moved to comment.

As I reflect on the life and legacy of Dr. Martin L. King Jr. (today is his actual birthday), it pains me that we (as a society) are still addressing acts of disrespect and cruelty towards children, women, and fellow human beings in general.   Dr. King championed the fight for civil and equal human rights for all and specifically African-Americans.  The result?   Legislation and laws were passed to ensure that we all could walk in Godfidence knowing that we are all equal and must be treated accordingly.  Dr. King and other freedom fighters sacrificed so that we could live out our God given dignity, respect, and the right to pursue and achieve our dreams.

Imagine that while some were in the process of reaping the benefits and/or taking advantage of opportunities created as a result of the hard fought civil/human rights work, a 7 year old African-American boy experienced his first sexual violation within the walls of his own home by a trusted member of his family. These unspeakable human violations would go on for another 6 or 7 years. Imagine the hurt and emotional scars.  No one protected him.  No one came to his rescue.  No one but God.  His mother made sure that he and his brothers went to church.

Some how.  Some way.  This man-child discovered his gift of music.  Along the way, God placed a mentor in his life who not only helped him hone his gift of music but also reinforced his belief in God and the Gospel.  As he began to make music professionally, all he could produce, arrange, and write about was what dominated his thoughts.  What he learned about way too early in life.  Sex.

It is my understanding that sexual abuse and traumas can often stunt or alter an individual’s brain development, particularly emotionally.  If professional help is not sought OR divine intervention doesn’t happen, a person can easily begin to replay their childhood traumas.   Worst case scenario, the one who was hurt begins to hurt others.  Hurt people.  Hurt people.

Did R. Kelly hurt those women as alleged in the docu-series OR was he living the “rockstar” life in every sense of the word and they were willing participants?

Tune in this Saturday, January 19, 2019 at noon for the rest of the commentary.  https://www.youtube.com/MarilynsCafeSociety

Until then, be sure to Live. Laugh. Love.

Peace,

Marilyn

Spread “More Goodness” in 2019

Happy New Year!

I raise my proverbial glass to you and say “Cheers” to making 2019 a year of “more goodness” in our individual lives and the world.

Listen, we can find ways to spread “more goodness” to others, no matter what is going on in this world.

Yes, you can find a way to spread “more goodness” to others, no matter your station in life.

There is no question that you can remain unaffected by the negativity around you so that you can spread “more goodness” to others.

What does “more goodness” look like?  Well, it has many “looks”.  Here are a few…

Sharing a smile; making someone laugh; stopping someone from being mistreated or bullied; making the righteous business decision;  letting someone else get the close parking spot; calling out and eradicating discrimination and injustice; sharing a good book; taking better care of yourself; praying for someone; etc.   Obviously, “more goodness” can also be tangible or material.  For example, helping someone who needs financial assistance; providing opportunities to overlooked individuals; donating money, unused clothes, shoes, and other items to charity; etc.

We’ve heard this before, right?  Some have called this “random acts of kindness” or “paying it forward”.  Well, I challenge you to be an Ambassador of more that goodness in 2019.

Chime in here to let me know what you did OR how you received “more goodness” in your life.  I can’t wait to hear from you.

Live. Laugh. Love.

Marilyn