Don’t Stop! Get it. Get it.

Oh goodness! I’m behind the blog deadline because I’ve been busy birthday-ing! It is exciting to celebrate another year of life! I haven’t reached every business, career, or life goal yet but I am truly happy to celebrate my birthday.

Speaking of goals and getting older, when should you give up on a goal? When you turn 30, 40, 50, 60 years old? After 10 years of working towards it? After 20 years? After a lifetime? When or at what age do you throw in the towel? Well, some will say stop trying or change your goal when you get tired. I agree to some degree because if you get tired of working towards a goal you set then perhaps it wasn’t for you. Maybe you have to do a bit more soul searching and find a goal or dream to set that is authentic to/for you.

I believe that individuals who are authentic to their God given talents, gifts, or abilities will not tire of pursuing or working towards their dream or goal. They will press on. Continue on. Work on.

Listen, if you find yourself celebrating another birthday and still working towards your goal(s), it’s okay as long as you are still “living” your life. Don’t go through life holding your breath til you get there. Enjoy the journey and the process. In the words from a “hook” from a popular song from a few years back, “Don’t stop. Get it! Get it!”

Join me tomorrow, Saturday, June 1st, 2019 for the next show on https://www.youtube.com/MarilynsCafeSociety. Also “like”, subscribe, share, and/or follow my social media platforms at marilynscafesoc on Twitter; Marilyn’s Café Society on Facebook, YouTube; and marilynscafesociety.com.

Peace.
Live. Laugh. Love.
Marilyn

What WOULD Jesus Say?

Hey there!  Are you having a good week so far?

Well, I did not get back to my YouTube channel Saturday night as planned because I was busy being social.  So, let’s just quickly go over what we would have talked about—the continuation of explaining the five (5) love languages.

Here they are…

  1. Words of affirmation.  This language type prefers hearing you say “I love you” and similar kind, loving words as an expression of love.
  2. Quality Time.  This language type of expression of love requires your presence; your full attention with no distractions.
  3. Receiving Gifts. Not to be confused with materialism, the person who prefers this love language deeply appreciates the gift because they realize that thought, effort, and possible financial sacrifice went into getting the it.
  4. Acts of Service. Help your loved one who prefers this love language complete a task or chore and you’ll score major points.
  5. Physical Touch.   This love language type prefers being touched (not necessarily sexually) but a thoughtful kiss, hug, hand holding, etc.   Your physical presence and touch means the world to him/her.

Now that you know or have been reminded of what they are, which type are you?  And, which type of language do you prefer to receive?  According to the author, Gary Chapman, who first wrote on the topic, we all have a dominant love language.  Take some time to figure out your type on the giving and receiving end.  Your relationships will get better as you learn how to use the proper love language with the people in your life.

This all came up because of last week’s blog topic entitled “Action Speaks Louder than Words”  which led to additional commentary on this past Saturday’s short show.  Personally, I believe that we all prefer “love in action” and only some of us may actually feel loved from hearing words of affirmation.  Did you know that these principles can be applied to the greater community as well?

One way that I like to express love for the greater good of humanity is through my occasional “Calls to Action”.  My latest “call to action” is for civil/human rights and specifically women’s reproductive rights.  I am against abortion but please go to https://www.aauw.org to learn how you can support protecting  a woman’s right of choice.   For those who have been with the show for a while, you have already heard my dissertation on the issue.

So, what do you say?  More importantly— What WOULD Jesus say?

Tune in Saturday, May 25th, 2019 for the next show on https://www.youtube.com/MarilynsCafeSociety.  Also “like”, subscribe, share, and/or follow my social media platforms at marilynscafesoc on Twitter; Marilyn’s Café Society on Facebook, YouTube; and marilynscafesociety.com.  Peace.

Live. Laugh. Love.

Marilyn

Action Speaks Louder than Words

Does Your Actions Match Your Words?

Well, hello there!  I’m almost back on track.  Today is Thursday and this time I’m just one day past my blog deadline!  I said that I would get back on track and I’m making every effort to do.

Speaking of doing what I said I would do, how often does your words and actions match?  Do you say what you mean and mean what you say and then show it through your actions?  Need generalized examples???  Saying you love someone or something but never invest time or money; saying you want to be healthy but eat unhealthy foods and never exercise; etc.  Now listen, I know that circumstances can happen or come up, but you must match your words with action at home; at work; at church; at school; at play; in all areas of your life!  Your loved ones, employees/employers, students/teachers/mentors, business/customer/client/vendor, etc. deserved it; and so do you!!  Remember, ACTION speaks LOUDER than words!

Now, I must give this game 2 of the NBA Western Conference Series (Portland vs Golden State) my full attention. What a game!!!

Be sure to tune in Saturday, May 25th, 2019 for the next show on https://www.youtube.com/MarilynsCafeSociety.  Also “like”, subscribe, share, and/or follow my social media platforms at marilynscafesoc on Twitter; Marilyn’s Café Society on Facebook, YouTube; and marilynscafesociety.com.  Peace.

Live. Laugh. Love.

Marilyn

Remembering Mama

Happy Mother’s Day everyone!

I hope that you all had a beautiful day with your loved ones.

This is the third year that my siblings and I have been without our mother on Mother’s Day.  I can tell you that there are no words to describe how much we are missing her.  We are missing her voice, her laughter, her talk, her fussing, her cooking, her smile, her physical presence and essence, just everything.  Listen you all, take in everything when you’re with your mother and father because you will miss everything when they are no longer with you on earth.

During the least expected times, you’ll remember moments that seemed insignificant; lessons that were taught; and things about them that you consciously didn’t notice.  I remember when I was in my teens, my mother started taking us with her to look at houses that were for sale.  Some were located in neighborhoods that we were familiar with but most were in affluent neighborhoods.  We’d ask her, “Mama how are you going to be able to get this big beautiful house?”  Her response was always “God will make a way.”  OR “I believe God will make it happen.”  OR  “I’m putting my faith to work.”  She’d ask the realtor questions.  She’d call banks or mortgage companies and ask about how to finance a home.

My mother would share stories with us about how her grandparents were land/property owners and how she knew that she would be one one day as well.  She said every generation should be better than the last.  She talked about the importance of having more than one way to make money.  My mother sold sweet potatoe pies in a small neighborhood store and the larger community store for a while in an effort to bring more money into the household.

By the time I was in my early 30s, my mother had mortgages on three properties and a profitable home day care business.  My mother tried her best to change the trajectory of her life and her children’s lives.  Early on, she knew that the odds were stacked up against us so she taught us about the goodness of our Heavenly Father and how he blesses us no matter how anyone feels about us.  She taught us how to pray.  She taught us to hold our heads up and to walk with confidence especially when we were not feeling so confident because God was with us, in us.  She showed us how to put our Faith to Work so that we could defeat the odds or negative forces and societal limitations.  My mother wasn’t perfect but she was/is a “wonder woman” who loved us.

There is so much more to share as I continue to remember my mother.  I’ll save the rest for later blogs.

Be sure to tune in Saturday, May 18th, 2019 for the next show on https://www.youtube.com/MarilynsCafeSociety.  Also “like”, subscribe, share, and/or follow my social media platforms at marilynscafesoc on Twitter; Marilyn’s Café Society on Facebook, YouTube; and marilynscafesociety.com.

Peace.

Live. Laugh. Love.

Marilyn

Whoomp! There One Is.

What’s happening?

Today is Sunday, May 5th, (Cinco de Mayo) and I’m still attempting to get this blog done!

Initially, I was going to share thoughts and information about gemstones after attending an EFFY Trunk show this past week.  By Thursday, I was ready to weigh in on the recent Facebook ban of extremists, Alex Jones, Milo Yiannopoulis, Minister Louis Farrakhan, and others whose views/voices has been deemed hateful and too inflammatory.  And, just yesterday, I was pretty sure that I had more to say about the evolution of beauty standards.

Needless to say, after getting caught up in last night’s NBA playoff series, Golden State Warriors vs. Houston Rockets (what a game!!!), I didn’t write about anything.  Even  now, I struggle to settle on one of the above mentioned topics, as I half watch the Portland vs. Denver series and learn that Steph Curry has a brother that also plays in the NBA.

So listen, I have concluded that it is okay NOT to have something to say every time.  Better yet, it is okay NOT to share everything that you think or believe all the time.  Also, if you change your mind later and decide to share your thoughts with the world, that’s okay too as long as you’re not spewing hate, divisiveness, and provoking violence.

Whoomp!  There one is.

Be sure to tune in Saturday, May 11th, 2019 for the next show on https://www.youtube.com/MarilynsCafeSociety.  Also “like”, subscribe, share, and/or follow my social media platforms at marilynscafesoc on Twitter; Marilyn’s Café Society on Facebook, YouTube; and marilynscafesociety.com.  Peace.

Live. Laugh. LOVE.

Marilyn