Silver Bells, Silver Bells…

Hello my friends.  Call me quirky OR not—but for some strange reason this popular Christmas song became an ear worm for me yesterday.  Well, okay, I’ll admit that I have been quietly entertaining myself with an occasional Christmas tune or two for the last week.  So, perhaps that is the reason the song came to mind.  Anyway, certain lyrics to the song really stood out.

“Children laughing, people passing.  Meeting smile after smile…”.  As these words and the melody continued to replay in my head, I began to think about the crowds of children and parents who came “out to play” for Halloween.  I shared in a previous blog about how heartwarming it was to see hundreds of families out engaging with their children as well as interacting with other families who were out for treats.  No cell phones to ears; no heads down looking at phones; no children fixated on tablets.  No.  Just children laughing, people were passing.  Meeting smile after smile!

Friends, technology serves its purpose and has certainly made life easier.  However, let’s not allow it to take over OR replace good ole face to face human interaction; eyeball to eyeball and voice to voice communication; skin to skin and heart to heart connection.  Do not allow technology to keep you away from those public spaces and places where you can meet and greet others.  Do not allow technology to completely wipe out the way we do business.  I realize that human beings will continue to evolve.   But you don’t want to wake up one day and there’s nowhere to physically go to get your favorite perfume, shoes or whatever.  There’s nowhere to go socialize, people watch, or shop.  Do you really want such a huge chunk of your life to be relegated to a computer, tablet, or 3” x 6” phone screen?  *pause*

Oh goodness, there’s that ear worm again.   “Children laughing.  People passing.  Meeting smile after smile…  Silver Bells. Silver Bells…”.

Join me for the next show is Saturday, November 16th, 2019  on https://www.youtube.com/MarilynsCafeSociety.  Be sure to “like”, subscribe, share, and/or follow my social media platforms at marilynscafesoc on Twitter; Marilyn’s Café Society on Facebook, YouTube; and marilynscafesociety.com.  Peace.

Live. Laugh. Love.

Marilyn

Love.

Hello everyone.  “I’ve got LOVE on my mind”.  So, “let me put LOVE on your mind”.  In fact, I want to give you “the best of my Love” and I want to know “how deep is your Love”.

Friends, there are many websites, associations, religious, and psychological people and publications that tackle the phenomenon called LOVE.  The Greeks, however, explain that there are four (4) kinds of Love.

Storge Love is family love. It’s the deep affection, care, and bond that naturally forms between parents and their children as well as between siblings, other family members, and even friends who have shared the same household. This kind of love is real, steady and sure.  It is the Love that endures for a lifetime.  I got you cause you family, baby!

Phileo Love is an emotional connection or feeling for someone that goes beyond acquaintances or casual friendships. Like Storge, It is real and developed over time but it’s connection is not as deep as the love within a family.  It is not romantic, passion or erotic love. Yet, is a powerful bond that ties and holds ​a community, neighborhood, church together.  That brotherly/sisterly/home girl/boy Love.

Eros Love is romantic or sexual. It is a Love between to human beings that is usually heartfelt, physical, passionate and intense. The word was originally connected with the goddess Eros of Greek Mythology.  I Love me some you.

Agape Love is divine love.  It is The Father, The Son, and The Holy Spirit.  It is perfect, pure, unconditional, and self-sacrificing.  We are commanded and called to agape love all.  Love God.  Love People. Love Self.

I don’t know about you but I am grateful that I now have; and, have experienced the Barney Song, “I Love You. You Love Me” Love;

the “Vision of Love” Love;

the “Love Hangover” Love;

“Baby Love” Love;

the “Jesus is Love” and “Yes, Jesus Loves Me” Love;

the “I will always Love you” and the “Love will keep us together” Love!

Go, my friends and not only give and receive Love, but Be Love!

The next show is Saturday, October 5th, 2019 on https://www.youtube.com/MarilynsCafeSociety. Be sure to “like”, subscribe, share, and/or follow my social media platforms at marilynscafesoc on Twitter; Marilyn’s Café Society on Facebook, YouTube; and marilynscafesociety.com.  Peace.

Live. Laugh. LOVE.

Marilyn

Laugh

Hello friends.  Question:  What did the left eye say to the right eye?  Answer:  Between you and me, something smells.  Here’s another one.  Why did the Oreo cookie go to the dentist?  Answer:  Because it lost its filling!!  Giggle.  Chuckle.  LoL!  That’s it.  Laugh!

Someone once said, “Laughter is the best medicine”.  Many believe that expression came from Old Testament scripture, Proverbs 17:22—“A merry heart is like medicine”.    This professes that laughter benefits us beyond just having a little light-hearted moment.

Check this out.  It’s scientific too.  Researchers have determined that laughter relaxes tense muscles; circulates blood flow; reduces stress; improves positive thinking; and acts as like an anti-depressant.  Socially, laughter is a great icebreaker; deal maker; and can help resolve conflict.  The list goes on!

Sounds like good medicine to me!  Come on everyone.  Let’s go boost someone’s confidence and positive outlook on life.  Make someone laugh.  Get those endorphins flowing so that our physical and mental health improves.  Now did I tell you about the time that I got caught in a rain storm and one of the spokes of my umbrella pulled my wig off!!!  Yes, in public.  And, yes, sometimes I spice my life up by wearing wigs!!

Go ahead, laugh.  And, share one of your funny stories or tell me a clean joke in the comments section.

Remember, the next show is Saturday on https://www.youtube.com/MarilynsCafeSociety. Be sure to “like”, subscribe, share, and/or follow my social media platforms at marilynscafesoc on Twitter; Marilyn’s Café Society on Facebook, YouTube; and marilynscafesociety.com.  Peace.

Live. Laugh. Love.

Marilyn

Live

Hey there.  I am having a good week you all.  How are you? Quickly, here’s some brief tips on how to truly “live”.

*Eat Healthy

*Drink plenty of water

*Exercise (include some kind of physical pleasure)

*Get adequate rest

*Enjoy lots of sunshine. (Be sure sure not to sunburn)

*Breathe in Fresh air

*Learn/try something new

*Be charitable—a blessing to others

*Work, Play, Create in Excellence

*Pray to and Praise God

*Forgive

*Laugh

*Give Love

*Receive Love

*Live

Next show is this Saturday, September 21st on https://www.youtube.com/MarilynsCafeSociety. And, as always, “like”, subscribe, share, and/or follow my social media platforms at marilynscafesoc on Twitter; Marilyn’s Café Society on Facebook, YouTube; and marilynscafesociety.com.  Peace.

Live. Laugh. Love.

Marilyn

The Nobody

What’s up everyone?  Having a great week?  I hope so.  My week has been spiritually charged and physically exhausting.  Yet, I am good!  Soooooo…

We’ve all heard the loaded statement “Nobody likes him or her” before, right?  And, when you hear it, what is your reaction and how do you feel?  I personally see a “red flag” when I hear it.   You see, I was taught to be doubtful of the “dog who is carrying the bone”!  In other words, dig a little deeper to determine where the person making the statement is coming from.   What is the motive? Or, what experience did he/she have with the person to cause them to make such a destructive, damaging statement?  Who is the “nobody” and why don’t he/she/they like the person?

In my experience, I’ve learned that the “nobody” is usually solely the person making the statement and the circle of people in his/her world with whom they influence.  And, the reason the person is not liked is based on the “nobody/ies” personal feeling for the person.  Sometimes people just don’t like certain people.  The “unliked” person did or said nothing wrong.  Its just that the person making the statement doesn’t care for the so-called unliked person and don’t want anyone else to like him/her either.  They attempt to impose or project how they feel about the person onto others.  Now, of course, a dissertation on the “isms’ could be written on the why OR even the deeper issue of the spiritual force that’s at work but for the sake of keeping this bloggable, I’ll keep it simple.  (Note:  Some people merely repeat what they’ve heard others say about someone and really mean no harm.)

I’ve, also, on rare occasions, found the statement “nobody likes him/her” to be grounded in truth.  There are some ugly people in this world.  They are un-Godly, mean, conniving, dishonest, disrespectful, disingenuous, etc.  They don’t really like themselves.  It’s sad but true.  Even worse, as stated previously, they often are the very ones carrying the bone!  Yes! The Nobody!

Everyone, keep your critical thinking hat on and dig a little deeper when met with this situation.  Don’t allow “The Nobody” (no matter who he/she may be) determine how you think or feel about others.

Remember to check out the show this Saturday on https://www.youtube.com/MarilynsCafeSociety. And, as always, “like”, subscribe, share, and/or follow my social media platforms at marilynscafesoc on Twitter; Marilyn’s Café Society on Facebook, YouTube; and marilynscafesociety.com.  Peace.

Live. Laugh. Love.

Marilyn

Fall

Hey everyone.  We’re approaching one of my favorite times of the year–the Fall season!  Yes, the milder, tolerable temperatures return.  Nature, once again, thrills us with the rich, glorious display of the colors of Autumn—the oranges, browns, golds, deep greens, and reds.  What I don’t like about Fall season is what comes next (winter) and the shorter days of light.  Nonetheless, I really like this season.

For me, each change of season is an opportunity to review, regroup, and in some cases reset our plans, goals, dreams, ambitions, and progress.  Particularly, the Fall season ushers in the final quarter of the year.  It’s our last chance to make sure we achieve that which we set out to do.  Our last chance to put the proverbial peddle to the metal and “fall” into greatness!

The Fall season is also a good time to “fall” into something new or different.  So, your plans for the year aren’t working out?  No worries, explore something else.  Try a different angle or approach.  If it’s business related, tweak your business plans.  If it’s career related, switch to a related career or change careers.  If it’s weight loss related, get a different weight loss plan.  If it’s related to your spiritual development, find a seasoned prayer partner/spiritual mentor.

Your plans for the year ARE working out for you?  Great.  Still, “fall” into something new!  It could be something as simple as taking a dance class and trying a new recipe.  OR as complex as learning a new language, traveling somewhere that you’ve never been, or teaching a bible class. Listen, I challenge you to put your spiritual, creative and intellectual gifts and talents to work.

Everyone, let’s all “fall” into a good, new thing this season. I’d love to hear about so be sure to comment here.

Also, tune in to the show this Saturday on https://www.youtube.com/MarilynsCafeSociety. Remember to “like”, subscribe, share, and/or follow my social media platforms at marilynscafesoc on Twitter; Marilyn’s Café Society on Facebook, YouTube; and marilynscafesociety.com.  Peace.

Live. Laugh. Love.

Marilyn

Be-ing

“To be or not to be, that is the question…”.

Hey everyone.  I hope that you’re having a meaningful week.  This quote from a speech that a character in William Shakepeare’s play, “Hamlet”, is questioning the meaning of life.  Of course, those who are more familiar with the play know that there is a deeper, even darker contemplation at work in the soliloquy’s entirety.  However, for the sake of this blog point, I will just focus on the opening line; and my initial brief explanation.

The meaning of life is “to be”.  “To be” who you were created to be with all your unique, special gifts and talents.  To beCOME “who” you essentially are as spiritual OR divine human beings (givers, healers, teachers, pastors, encouragers, leaders, exhorters, administrators, etc.) as well as “what” you are as human being (professions, entrepreneurs, skilled workers, husband, wife, etc.).  Note that who you are innately can and should determine what you beCOME.

“To be” is our ultimate gift.  Life.  Life more abundantly.  Respect it.  Protect it.  Never neglect it.  Love it.  Enjoy it.  Yours and others.

Friends, I hope that you continue Be-ing.  I Am.

Check out the show this weekend on https://www.youtube.com/MarilynsCafeSociety. Remember to “like”, subscribe, share, and/or follow my social media platforms at marilynscafesoc on Twitter; Marilyn’s Café Society on Facebook, YouTube; and marilynscafesociety.com.  Peace.

Live. Laugh. Love.

Marilyn

Home

As I listened to Solange Knowles latest music project, “When I Get Home”, I couldn’t help but reflect on my own journeys back “home”.  I believe on some level that was her intent when creating this piece.  Yes, not only to share her experiences and talent but to provoke the listener and viewer (in the case of the movie that accompanies this project) to reflect on their own “home” experiences.  The music is stunningly genius as she shares with us her memories, perspective on Houston, Texas.

I thought back to when I was in my early 30’s in an effort to heal from an emotional and physical trauma, I left the suburbs and moved back to the city of Chicago (a place that I call home) with my young son in tow.  We visited the Bronzeville neighborhood where I grew up.  The rich vibe was still there.  The heartbeat of African-American life and culture (the best and the worst) was ever present.  I took him to all the places that I liked going to as a child and young adult—the lakefront (particularly The Point); DuSable Museum and Washington Park; downtown Chicago and Grant Park; Navy Pier; Cite’; Rock and Roll McDonald’s; Gibson’s; Edna’s Soul Food; Gladys Soul Food Luncheonette (right before the doors closed for good); Johnson’s Publishing Company; the (new) Regal Theater; Comiskey/White Sox Park; the beautiful churches and community organizations; and so many other locations.  My father was there as he had been for more than 30 years (currently more than 50 years).  Back to familiar places and faces.  Other family and friends were still there.  Home.

I get the same “home” feeling every time I go back to Mississippi (my birth place).  My parents migrated to Chicago like many other black families in the south did in pursuit of a better life.  Nevertheless, Mississippi is still “home”.  I enjoy seeing the familiar places, like “uptown”; the family churches; the Piggly Wiggly.  Oh, there’s nothing like that black southern culture/hospitality.  It’s heartwarming to reflect on times past and to ooh and ahh over the new developments and changes that have taken place.  Familiar faces were there—family, friends, friends of family.  Home.

In my 40s, I found myself back “home” again.  This time back to Joliet, Illinois where I also grew up (mainly during my teen years).  Back to familiar places—Eastside, Westside, downtown; the historic churches; Louis Joliet Mall; Rialto Theatre; Route 66; I-80; etc.  The familiar faces.  My mother was there as she had been for the last 47 years of her life.  Family and friends are still there.  Home.

Solange reminds us that “home” is a physical place but it can also be a heartfelt place as a result of our experiences, memories, emotions, even spirituality.  I feel “home” in just about any church building; in the studio; anywhere with my loved ones; with myself; on the mic; with that special one; during devotional and prayer time; and oddly, sometimes with someone I barely know—that kindred spirit. Home is Love.  Wherever God is, it’s safe to say you’re Home.  Where’s your home?  What makes you feel home?  Comment here.

Remember, no show this weekend.  The next show will be posted Saturday, August 24th, 2019 on https://www.youtube.com/MarilynsCafeSociety.  Also “like”, subscribe, share, and/or follow my social media platforms at marilynscafesoc on Twitter; Marilyn’s Café Society on Facebook, YouTube; and marilynscafesociety.com.  Peace.

Live. Laugh. Love.

Marilyn

Remedy

Hello everyone.

Remedy. There are a couple different definitions for this word. For the purposes of this blog, I’ll reference the verb meaning which is to set an undesirable situation right OR to rectify, solve, correct, or fix.

*Sigh* Well, I certainly hope that you all have found a way to keep your spirit lifted as we all continue to process the back to back mass shootings that took place in this country in the last week. In fact, I’m sending heartfelt condolences, love, and prayers to all who have lost loved ones to gun violence whether it was a mass shooting or one on one.

There’s not a whole lot more to say that hasn’t already been said via media and social media.  I just send words of encouragement to those on the frontlines of the “stop the gun violence fight”, STRENGTH to you; and, to PRAYER WARRIORS, keep praying. There is a REMEDY. Godspeed!!!

The next edition of the show is Saturday, August 10th, 2019 on https://www.youtube.com/MarilynsCafeSociety. Also “like”, subscribe, share, and/or follow my social media platforms at marilynscafesoc on Twitter; Marilyn’s Café Society on Facebook, YouTube; and marilynscafesociety.com.

Peace.
Live. Laugh. Love.
Marilyn

The Gifts

Hey everyone and Happy August!  I’ll get right to it.  I was recently inspired by some of Beyonce’s music from The Lion King soundtrack entitled, “The Gift”.  You see the title itself caused me to think about “gifts”.  So, today, I want to blog about “gifts”.  As you know, there are tangible gifts and gifts that are intangible.

Tangible gifts are material items that are given to someone or something like a non-profit, charitable or religious organization. For example, money, flowers, jewelry, cars, art, etc. are given to individuals for birthdays, anniversaries, Christmas and various other important, celebrated occasions.  Also, some people give money, furniture, even buildings to their favorite charities or religious organizations.  Most people give these tangible gifts to others as an act of love, respect, honor, or charity.  And, most people LOVE receiving these kinds of gifts!

Intangible gifts are not material and are given to or shared with others as a show of love, gratitude, honor, etc.  Time is a good example of an intangible gift.  Sharing your time with someone that you love and care about is an expression of love.  Knowledge or information is another example of an intangible gift that can be given to someone.  Perhaps a friend is starting a business and does not have all the information that they need to be successful but you do.  When you share that information with your friend, you are giving them an intangible gift.  I blogged a few weeks ago about the different “love languages” and how important it is to know yours as well as your loved ones.  Well, some of those “love language” expressions of love are intangible gifts.

Other intangible gifts are those that with we have been born.  Yes, those precious intangible gifts that we have received from our Heavenly Father God.  Some are spiritual gifts like Wisdom, Revelation Knowledge, Healing, etc.   Some of us are born teachers, leaders, givers, servers, pastors, intercessors, administrators, etc.  Other intangible gifts that we’ve received from God include, singing and musicianship; drawing and artistry; building and construction; athleticism; and so on.  Listen, I know that some of these gifts can be taught but those who received these as gifts had no instruction.  They just instinctly, innately know how to do these things.  And not just do them or operate in them, they do them in/with excellence.  The more they use their God given gift(s), the more refined and magnificent they become.

Now, for those who have received these God given gift(s), know that they are not just for you!  You must share your gift(s) with your family, community, the world, and, yes, God too.

Be sure to checkout the latest edition of the show this Saturday, August 3rd, 2019 on https://www.youtube.com/MarilynsCafeSociety.  Also “like”, subscribe, share, and/or follow my social media platforms at marilynscafesoc on Twitter; Marilyn’s Café Society on Facebook, YouTube; and marilynscafesociety.com.  Peace.

Live. Laugh. Love.

Marilyn