Live

Hey there.  I am having a good week you all.  How are you? Quickly, here’s some brief tips on how to truly “live”.

*Eat Healthy

*Drink plenty of water

*Exercise (include some kind of physical pleasure)

*Get adequate rest

*Enjoy lots of sunshine. (Be sure sure not to sunburn)

*Breathe in Fresh air

*Learn/try something new

*Be charitable—a blessing to others

*Work, Play, Create in Excellence

*Pray to and Praise God

*Forgive

*Laugh

*Give Love

*Receive Love

*Live

Next show is this Saturday, September 21st on https://www.youtube.com/MarilynsCafeSociety. And, as always, “like”, subscribe, share, and/or follow my social media platforms at marilynscafesoc on Twitter; Marilyn’s Café Society on Facebook, YouTube; and marilynscafesociety.com.  Peace.

Live. Laugh. Love.

Marilyn

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The Nobody

What’s up everyone?  Having a great week?  I hope so.  My week has been spiritually charged and physically exhausting.  Yet, I am good!  Soooooo…

We’ve all heard the loaded statement “Nobody likes him or her” before, right?  And, when you hear it, what is your reaction and how do you feel?  I personally see a “red flag” when I hear it.   You see, I was taught to be doubtful of the “dog who is carrying the bone”!  In other words, dig a little deeper to determine where the person making the statement is coming from.   What is the motive? Or, what experience did he/she have with the person to cause them to make such a destructive, damaging statement?  Who is the “nobody” and why don’t he/she/they like the person?

In my experience, I’ve learned that the “nobody” is usually solely the person making the statement and the circle of people in his/her world with whom they influence.  And, the reason the person is not liked is based on the “nobody/ies” personal feeling for the person.  Sometimes people just don’t like certain people.  The “unliked” person did or said nothing wrong.  Its just that the person making the statement doesn’t care for the so-called unliked person and don’t want anyone else to like him/her either.  They attempt to impose or project how they feel about the person onto others.  Now, of course, a dissertation on the “isms’ could be written on the why OR even the deeper issue of the spiritual force that’s at work but for the sake of keeping this bloggable, I’ll keep it simple.  (Note:  Some people merely repeat what they’ve heard others say about someone and really mean no harm.)

I’ve, also, on rare occasions, found the statement “nobody likes him/her” to be grounded in truth.  There are some ugly people in this world.  They are un-Godly, mean, conniving, dishonest, disrespectful, disingenuous, etc.  They don’t really like themselves.  It’s sad but true.  Even worse, as stated previously, they often are the very ones carrying the bone!  Yes! The Nobody!

Everyone, keep your critical thinking hat on and dig a little deeper when met with this situation.  Don’t allow “The Nobody” (no matter who he/she may be) determine how you think or feel about others.

Remember to check out the show this Saturday on https://www.youtube.com/MarilynsCafeSociety. And, as always, “like”, subscribe, share, and/or follow my social media platforms at marilynscafesoc on Twitter; Marilyn’s Café Society on Facebook, YouTube; and marilynscafesociety.com.  Peace.

Live. Laugh. Love.

Marilyn

Fall

Hey everyone.  We’re approaching one of my favorite times of the year–the Fall season!  Yes, the milder, tolerable temperatures return.  Nature, once again, thrills us with the rich, glorious display of the colors of Autumn—the oranges, browns, golds, deep greens, and reds.  What I don’t like about Fall season is what comes next (winter) and the shorter days of light.  Nonetheless, I really like this season.

For me, each change of season is an opportunity to review, regroup, and in some cases reset our plans, goals, dreams, ambitions, and progress.  Particularly, the Fall season ushers in the final quarter of the year.  It’s our last chance to make sure we achieve that which we set out to do.  Our last chance to put the proverbial peddle to the metal and “fall” into greatness!

The Fall season is also a good time to “fall” into something new or different.  So, your plans for the year aren’t working out?  No worries, explore something else.  Try a different angle or approach.  If it’s business related, tweak your business plans.  If it’s career related, switch to a related career or change careers.  If it’s weight loss related, get a different weight loss plan.  If it’s related to your spiritual development, find a seasoned prayer partner/spiritual mentor.

Your plans for the year ARE working out for you?  Great.  Still, “fall” into something new!  It could be something as simple as taking a dance class and trying a new recipe.  OR as complex as learning a new language, traveling somewhere that you’ve never been, or teaching a bible class. Listen, I challenge you to put your spiritual, creative and intellectual gifts and talents to work.

Everyone, let’s all “fall” into a good, new thing this season. I’d love to hear about so be sure to comment here.

Also, tune in to the show this Saturday on https://www.youtube.com/MarilynsCafeSociety. Remember to “like”, subscribe, share, and/or follow my social media platforms at marilynscafesoc on Twitter; Marilyn’s Café Society on Facebook, YouTube; and marilynscafesociety.com.  Peace.

Live. Laugh. Love.

Marilyn

Be-ing

“To be or not to be, that is the question…”.

Hey everyone.  I hope that you’re having a meaningful week.  This quote from a speech that a character in William Shakepeare’s play, “Hamlet”, is questioning the meaning of life.  Of course, those who are more familiar with the play know that there is a deeper, even darker contemplation at work in the soliloquy’s entirety.  However, for the sake of this blog point, I will just focus on the opening line; and my initial brief explanation.

The meaning of life is “to be”.  “To be” who you were created to be with all your unique, special gifts and talents.  To beCOME “who” you essentially are as spiritual OR divine human beings (givers, healers, teachers, pastors, encouragers, leaders, exhorters, administrators, etc.) as well as “what” you are as human being (professions, entrepreneurs, skilled workers, husband, wife, etc.).  Note that who you are innately can and should determine what you beCOME.

“To be” is our ultimate gift.  Life.  Life more abundantly.  Respect it.  Protect it.  Never neglect it.  Love it.  Enjoy it.  Yours and others.

Friends, I hope that you continue Be-ing.  I Am.

Check out the show this weekend on https://www.youtube.com/MarilynsCafeSociety. Remember to “like”, subscribe, share, and/or follow my social media platforms at marilynscafesoc on Twitter; Marilyn’s Café Society on Facebook, YouTube; and marilynscafesociety.com.  Peace.

Live. Laugh. Love.

Marilyn

Home

As I listened to Solange Knowles latest music project, “When I Get Home”, I couldn’t help but reflect on my own journeys back “home”.  I believe on some level that was her intent when creating this piece.  Yes, not only to share her experiences and talent but to provoke the listener and viewer (in the case of the movie that accompanies this project) to reflect on their own “home” experiences.  The music is stunningly genius as she shares with us her memories, perspective on Houston, Texas.

I thought back to when I was in my early 30’s in an effort to heal from an emotional and physical trauma, I left the suburbs and moved back to the city of Chicago (a place that I call home) with my young son in tow.  We visited the Bronzeville neighborhood where I grew up.  The rich vibe was still there.  The heartbeat of African-American life and culture (the best and the worst) was ever present.  I took him to all the places that I liked going to as a child and young adult—the lakefront (particularly The Point); DuSable Museum and Washington Park; downtown Chicago and Grant Park; Navy Pier; Cite’; Rock and Roll McDonald’s; Gibson’s; Edna’s Soul Food; Gladys Soul Food Luncheonette (right before the doors closed for good); Johnson’s Publishing Company; the (new) Regal Theater; Comiskey/White Sox Park; the beautiful churches and community organizations; and so many other locations.  My father was there as he had been for more than 30 years (currently more than 50 years).  Back to familiar places and faces.  Other family and friends were still there.  Home.

I get the same “home” feeling every time I go back to Mississippi (my birth place).  My parents migrated to Chicago like many other black families in the south did in pursuit of a better life.  Nevertheless, Mississippi is still “home”.  I enjoy seeing the familiar places, like “uptown”; the family churches; the Piggly Wiggly.  Oh, there’s nothing like that black southern culture/hospitality.  It’s heartwarming to reflect on times past and to ooh and ahh over the new developments and changes that have taken place.  Familiar faces were there—family, friends, friends of family.  Home.

In my 40s, I found myself back “home” again.  This time back to Joliet, Illinois where I also grew up (mainly during my teen years).  Back to familiar places—Eastside, Westside, downtown; the historic churches; Louis Joliet Mall; Rialto Theatre; Route 66; I-80; etc.  The familiar faces.  My mother was there as she had been for the last 47 years of her life.  Family and friends are still there.  Home.

Solange reminds us that “home” is a physical place but it can also be a heartfelt place as a result of our experiences, memories, emotions, even spirituality.  I feel “home” in just about any church building; in the studio; anywhere with my loved ones; with myself; on the mic; with that special one; during devotional and prayer time; and oddly, sometimes with someone I barely know—that kindred spirit. Home is Love.  Wherever God is, it’s safe to say you’re Home.  Where’s your home?  What makes you feel home?  Comment here.

Remember, no show this weekend.  The next show will be posted Saturday, August 24th, 2019 on https://www.youtube.com/MarilynsCafeSociety.  Also “like”, subscribe, share, and/or follow my social media platforms at marilynscafesoc on Twitter; Marilyn’s Café Society on Facebook, YouTube; and marilynscafesociety.com.  Peace.

Live. Laugh. Love.

Marilyn

Remedy

Hello everyone.

Remedy. There are a couple different definitions for this word. For the purposes of this blog, I’ll reference the verb meaning which is to set an undesirable situation right OR to rectify, solve, correct, or fix.

*Sigh* Well, I certainly hope that you all have found a way to keep your spirit lifted as we all continue to process the back to back mass shootings that took place in this country in the last week. In fact, I’m sending heartfelt condolences, love, and prayers to all who have lost loved ones to gun violence whether it was a mass shooting or one on one.

There’s not a whole lot more to say that hasn’t already been said via media and social media.  I just send words of encouragement to those on the frontlines of the “stop the gun violence fight”, STRENGTH to you; and, to PRAYER WARRIORS, keep praying. There is a REMEDY. Godspeed!!!

The next edition of the show is Saturday, August 10th, 2019 on https://www.youtube.com/MarilynsCafeSociety. Also “like”, subscribe, share, and/or follow my social media platforms at marilynscafesoc on Twitter; Marilyn’s Café Society on Facebook, YouTube; and marilynscafesociety.com.

Peace.
Live. Laugh. Love.
Marilyn

The Gifts

Hey everyone and Happy August!  I’ll get right to it.  I was recently inspired by some of Beyonce’s music from The Lion King soundtrack entitled, “The Gift”.  You see the title itself caused me to think about “gifts”.  So, today, I want to blog about “gifts”.  As you know, there are tangible gifts and gifts that are intangible.

Tangible gifts are material items that are given to someone or something like a non-profit, charitable or religious organization. For example, money, flowers, jewelry, cars, art, etc. are given to individuals for birthdays, anniversaries, Christmas and various other important, celebrated occasions.  Also, some people give money, furniture, even buildings to their favorite charities or religious organizations.  Most people give these tangible gifts to others as an act of love, respect, honor, or charity.  And, most people LOVE receiving these kinds of gifts!

Intangible gifts are not material and are given to or shared with others as a show of love, gratitude, honor, etc.  Time is a good example of an intangible gift.  Sharing your time with someone that you love and care about is an expression of love.  Knowledge or information is another example of an intangible gift that can be given to someone.  Perhaps a friend is starting a business and does not have all the information that they need to be successful but you do.  When you share that information with your friend, you are giving them an intangible gift.  I blogged a few weeks ago about the different “love languages” and how important it is to know yours as well as your loved ones.  Well, some of those “love language” expressions of love are intangible gifts.

Other intangible gifts are those that with we have been born.  Yes, those precious intangible gifts that we have received from our Heavenly Father God.  Some are spiritual gifts like Wisdom, Revelation Knowledge, Healing, etc.   Some of us are born teachers, leaders, givers, servers, pastors, intercessors, administrators, etc.  Other intangible gifts that we’ve received from God include, singing and musicianship; drawing and artistry; building and construction; athleticism; and so on.  Listen, I know that some of these gifts can be taught but those who received these as gifts had no instruction.  They just instinctly, innately know how to do these things.  And not just do them or operate in them, they do them in/with excellence.  The more they use their God given gift(s), the more refined and magnificent they become.

Now, for those who have received these God given gift(s), know that they are not just for you!  You must share your gift(s) with your family, community, the world, and, yes, God too.

Be sure to checkout the latest edition of the show this Saturday, August 3rd, 2019 on https://www.youtube.com/MarilynsCafeSociety.  Also “like”, subscribe, share, and/or follow my social media platforms at marilynscafesoc on Twitter; Marilyn’s Café Society on Facebook, YouTube; and marilynscafesociety.com.  Peace.

Live. Laugh. Love.

Marilyn

Hotter Than July

While some western states in the U.S. are baking at that typical triple digit summer temperatures, tens of millions of Americans will experience record-breaking heat wave temperatures well into the 90s with the heat indices potentially sweltering up to 110 degrees or higher.  Those of us living in the central, south, and eastern regions of the U.S., get ready.  Here’s how…

  • Have a cool, air conditioned place to be during this excessive heat event.
  • Avoid the sun AND outdoor activity.
  • If you work outdoors, try to reschedule strenuous activity.
  • Wear light weight and loose fitting clothing.
  • Drink plenty of water.
  • Don’t drink alcoholic beverages because they cause dehydration.
  • Reduce use of other electrical gadgets as many will be running their a.c. 24/7 in an effort to keep cool. This will help prevent a blackout from occurring.
  • Check on the elderly, young children, the vulnerable, and pets.
  • Cancel or reschedule travel plans.
  • Know the signs of heat exhaustion or heat stroke. They both require immediate, emergency medical attention.

I realize that there are many seemingly more important things happening in the world to blog about but my top concern is to help keep everyone safe.  Be careful everyone and please take this weather advisory seriously!  And yes, I’m in deejay mode—this blog title is a nod to Stevie Wonder’s nineteenth album entitled, “Hotter Than July”!  It’s truly is HOT!

Be sure to checkout the latest edition of the show this Saturday, July 20th, 2019 on https://www.youtube.com/MarilynsCafeSociety.  Also “like”, subscribe, share, and/or follow my social media platforms at marilynscafesoc on Twitter; Marilyn’s Café Society on Facebook, YouTube; and marilynscafesociety.com.  Peace.

Live. Laugh. Love.

Marilyn

Keep Your Head to the Sky

Hello there.  Are you enjoying the summer heat?  It got very hot in Chicagoland yesterday. I believe that we hit 100 degrees or more with the heat index!  I thought about the coldest, snowiest day that we had this past winter and kept my mouth shut.

Sooo, this blog title reminds me of the 1973/74 Billboard Top 25 song by the Grammy Award winning band, Earth, Wind & Fire!  I thought about this song when I recently posted a picture of my mother posing with her head lifted upwards.  The social media posts were in loving memory of her on her 78th birthday.

Keeping our head to the sky was something that she drove home to us (her children) as well as others who would receive her inspiring words.  Sometimes we’d come home from school (and as we got older), work, or somewhere “in a slump” for whatever the reason; and she’d encourage us and try to lift our spirit.  “Hold your head up!”,  she’d say.  “Believe what God says about you!”  My father encouraged us in this way, too.   “Stop looking down.  Look up so that you can see where you’re going”!

As we live life, we no doubt have/will face challenges and/or be met with some disingenuous people who don’t like you and will try to discourage, discredit, and just plain “dis” you.  They’ll try to keep you from becoming all that God intended you to be.  They’ll try to block or even take YOUR blessings.  The key word here is “try”.  As long as you spiritually and, if necessary, physically “keep your head to the sky” meaning turn to God (Our Heavenly Father) who is here, there, everywhere, (even in you) and ALL POWERFUL, you WILL get the victory!  Now, that’s what HE said!!  Not me.  Okay, so sometimes we may be the culprit—putting too much pressure on ourselves; being hypercritical of ourselves; etc.

Nevertheless, lifting your head to the sky is like lifting your hands in Praise.  You are acknowledging God’s majesty; surrendering to his magnificence and sovereignty!  You are trusting his Word, Instruction, and Lead.  You are showing humility while building your God-fidence.

“Keep Your Head to the Sky” my friends and enjoy your FLOURISHING business, career/job, educational pursuits, family life, health and wellness, and anything else God put in your heart to accomplish or achieve.

Haven’t heard the song in awhile?  Here’s the link https://youtu.be/qpD4siBSUO.  Enjoy.  It still sounds soo good.

Remember to checkout the latest edition of the show this Saturday, July 13th, 2019 on https://www.youtube.com/MarilynsCafeSociety.  Also “like”, subscribe, share, and/or follow my social media platforms at marilynscafesoc on Twitter; Marilyn’s Café Society on Facebook, YouTube; and marilynscafesociety.com.  Peace.

Live. Laugh. Love.

Marilyn

It’s Ringing!

Hello friends.  Can you hear it?  It’s ringing!  Can you hear it ringing!

It’s freedom!  Freedom is ringing everyone!

For the United States of America in 1776 and even now, freedom meant becoming independent from the oppressive British rule and gaining all kinds of individual rights including being able to act, speak, or think independently without fear of backlash.   In 1863 for Africans in America or those born in America , freedom meant being released from dehumanizing slavery and all the ugliness that followed.  For Women in America in the 19th century to date, freedom meant/means having the right to own property; the right to vote; the right to hold public office; the right to work in any occupation or job with equal pay; the right to make their own health related decisions; and more.

For people in the American LGBTQ community from the 1960s to current times, freedom means having the right to live openly without experiencing any form of discrimination.   For immigrants fleeing from their home countries for various reasons (like political and economic unrest that led to war, famine, and poverty) in the 1700s and even now, freedom meant/means a new, safe, fresh start in the Land of the Free, America.  For those unjustly incarcerated in America, freedom means being exonerated; having their name(s) cleared; having their record(s) expunged; having their lives restored.

It’s ringing everyone!  Freedom is ringing.  The ringing MAY NOT be clear, on pitch or tone buts its ringing.  Sure there’s still work to do but its ringing!

On a lighter note, for the song bird, Deniece Williams (Wanna Be Free) or the funktastic band of the 1960s-70s,  the Ohio Players (I Want To Be Free), freedom meant/means breaking free from a love relationship that no long made/makes them happy.

Last and certainly not least, Christians/believers in America and around the world have the best kind of freedom, spiritual freedom.  We have been liberated to walk in relationship with our Heavenly Father, God and to be ALL that He created us to be including being his hands and his feet.  Trust and follow Him in order to find joy in the best Freedom that we’ve been given.  Blessed to be a blessing.

Indeed, Freedom is ringing everyone!  It’s ringing!  Can you hear it?

Enjoy the July 4th holiday and remember to checkout the latest edition of the show tomorrow, Saturday, July 13th, 2019 on https://www.youtube.com/MarilynsCafeSociety.  Also “like”, subscribe, share, and/or follow my social media platforms at marilynscafesoc on Twitter; Marilyn’s Café Society on Facebook, YouTube; and marilynscafesociety.com.  Peace.

Live. Laugh. Love.

Marilyn