Won’t He Do It?!!

You’ve heard that saying before, right?  Won’t He do it?!!!

Usually the person saying it is giving honor, respect, and credit to God for a blessing of some kind that only He could have made happen.  The blessing could be a dream job, an opportunity, or a position that you really wanted; healing of your body or a special relationship; a profitable business idea; saving someone’s life or your own; overcoming seemingly insurmountable obstacles; etc.

My latest “Won’t He Do It?!!” moment was having the opportunity to model in and commentate for a couple of fashion shows.  Those who have been with the show for a period of time know that I’ve shared on occasion that I trained to be a model when I was in my teens and never really had much success in that arena.  Over the years, I have modeled here and there in small shows.  Those opportunities were a rare few.  Fast forward to this May, out of the blue, I was invited to model in the local Macy’s fashion shows.  I posted pictures on one of my previous blogs.  And, as I shared last weekend, I modeled again and was also commentator.  I really had not thought much about modeling lately as my plate has been full with other endeavors But God has a way of making sure that all of our gifts, talents, skills, etc. are put to use.  Please know that every single thing that we learn, polish, or perfect IS NOT done in vain.

Now, to some this local fashion show may not mean anything OR may seem superficial.  However, for me, this “out of the blue” opportunity was once again a wonderful reminder of how God is truly amazing.  Won’t He do it?!!   What’s your “Won’t he do it?!!!” story?  Here’s a few amateur pictures from last Saturday’s fashion show.

Marilyn headed to Macy’s Fashion Show!

Marilyn introducing next Macy’s model, Robert (at the top of stairs). Commentates on his Polo attire.

Macy’s models pose after the fashion show.

Tune in Saturday, June 15th, 2019 for the next show on https://www.youtube.com/MarilynsCafeSociety.  Also “like”, subscribe, share, and/or follow my social media platforms at marilynscafesoc on Twitter; Marilyn’s Café Society on Facebook, YouTube; and marilynscafesociety.com.  Peace.

Live. Laugh. Love.

Marilyn

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MVP

Hello there!
How is your week going? I’m good and still “birthday-ing”–in my mind! I’m especially excited about the warmer weather. Sunshine certainly helps make the days brighter in more ways than one. Shine, sun, shine!

So, during a recent conversation about the NBA Finals, more specifically who will be the MVP (Most Valuable Player/Person), I thought about life in general and who would be the MVP in my life, your life? No doubt, most of us would say our parents and rightfully so. After all, they were there from the beginning teaching, training, coaching us in our various stages of mental and physical growth and development. As we grew older, they were there to encourage, support, and invest in our interests or activities.

Some would say that a teacher, coach, or mentor would be their MVP because they picked up where the parent left off or stepped up when the parents could not for whatever reason(s). For example, if you were an athlete but your parent was not then the coach was present to teach you all that you needed to know. If you were academically gifted and your parent(s) were not, a special teacher stepped up to take you to the next level. You may have or had a business, career, or spiritual mentor to help you become successful. All of these people would qualify as MVP in your life because, again, they were there to push and lift you.

We may even come up with other people near or far (meaning we may or may not actually know the person but was somehow inspired by them) that we would credit as MVP in our lives. However, the one person that most of us would not even think to acknowledge as MVP in our lives is—ourselves! Right?!! Well, I’m here to remind you that you, too, are your own Most Valuable Person! Without you, who would those other people have to encourage, inspire, support, lift? We must value self–all that we are and are not! It doesn’t mean that you are selfish. In fact, in an amazing, mysterious way, valuing who you are makes you more selfless. Being your own MVP also means you’re very careful about with whom you share your knowledge, ideas, dreams, plans, and very presence. Some people just aren’t worthy.

Finally, being your own MVP means that you will not allow your gift(s), talent(s), purpose(s), existence go to waste. Listen, MVPs, I encourage you to choose to let your light shine the best way that you can and eventually, other MVPs will emerge bringing you even more sunshine!

Remember to tune in Saturday, June 8th, 2019 for the next show on https://www.youtube.com/MarilynsCafeSociety. Also “like”, subscribe, share, and/or follow my social media platforms at marilynscafesoc on Twitter; Marilyn’s Café Society on Facebook, YouTube; and marilynscafesociety.com.  Peace.

Live. Laugh. Love.
Marilyn

Don’t Stop! Get it. Get it.

Oh goodness! I’m behind the blog deadline because I’ve been busy birthday-ing! It is exciting to celebrate another year of life! I haven’t reached every business, career, or life goal yet but I am truly happy to celebrate my birthday.

Speaking of goals and getting older, when should you give up on a goal? When you turn 30, 40, 50, 60 years old? After 10 years of working towards it? After 20 years? After a lifetime? When or at what age do you throw in the towel? Well, some will say stop trying or change your goal when you get tired. I agree to some degree because if you get tired of working towards a goal you set then perhaps it wasn’t for you. Maybe you have to do a bit more soul searching and find a goal or dream to set that is authentic to/for you.

I believe that individuals who are authentic to their God given talents, gifts, or abilities will not tire of pursuing or working towards their dream or goal. They will press on. Continue on. Work on.

Listen, if you find yourself celebrating another birthday and still working towards your goal(s), it’s okay as long as you are still “living” your life. Don’t go through life holding your breath til you get there. Enjoy the journey and the process. In the words from a “hook” from a popular song from a few years back, “Don’t stop. Get it! Get it!”

Join me tomorrow, Saturday, June 1st, 2019 for the next show on https://www.youtube.com/MarilynsCafeSociety. Also “like”, subscribe, share, and/or follow my social media platforms at marilynscafesoc on Twitter; Marilyn’s Café Society on Facebook, YouTube; and marilynscafesociety.com.

Peace.
Live. Laugh. Love.
Marilyn

What WOULD Jesus Say?

Hey there!  Are you having a good week so far?

Well, I did not get back to my YouTube channel Saturday night as planned because I was busy being social.  So, let’s just quickly go over what we would have talked about—the continuation of explaining the five (5) love languages.

Here they are…

  1. Words of affirmation.  This language type prefers hearing you say “I love you” and similar kind, loving words as an expression of love.
  2. Quality Time.  This language type of expression of love requires your presence; your full attention with no distractions.
  3. Receiving Gifts. Not to be confused with materialism, the person who prefers this love language deeply appreciates the gift because they realize that thought, effort, and possible financial sacrifice went into getting the it.
  4. Acts of Service. Help your loved one who prefers this love language complete a task or chore and you’ll score major points.
  5. Physical Touch.   This love language type prefers being touched (not necessarily sexually) but a thoughtful kiss, hug, hand holding, etc.   Your physical presence and touch means the world to him/her.

Now that you know or have been reminded of what they are, which type are you?  And, which type of language do you prefer to receive?  According to the author, Gary Chapman, who first wrote on the topic, we all have a dominant love language.  Take some time to figure out your type on the giving and receiving end.  Your relationships will get better as you learn how to use the proper love language with the people in your life.

This all came up because of last week’s blog topic entitled “Action Speaks Louder than Words”  which led to additional commentary on this past Saturday’s short show.  Personally, I believe that we all prefer “love in action” and only some of us may actually feel loved from hearing words of affirmation.  Did you know that these principles can be applied to the greater community as well?

One way that I like to express love for the greater good of humanity is through my occasional “Calls to Action”.  My latest “call to action” is for civil/human rights and specifically women’s reproductive rights.  I am against abortion but please go to https://www.aauw.org to learn how you can support protecting  a woman’s right of choice.   For those who have been with the show for a while, you have already heard my dissertation on the issue.

So, what do you say?  More importantly— What WOULD Jesus say?

Tune in Saturday, May 25th, 2019 for the next show on https://www.youtube.com/MarilynsCafeSociety.  Also “like”, subscribe, share, and/or follow my social media platforms at marilynscafesoc on Twitter; Marilyn’s Café Society on Facebook, YouTube; and marilynscafesociety.com.  Peace.

Live. Laugh. Love.

Marilyn

Action Speaks Louder than Words

Does Your Actions Match Your Words?

Well, hello there!  I’m almost back on track.  Today is Thursday and this time I’m just one day past my blog deadline!  I said that I would get back on track and I’m making every effort to do.

Speaking of doing what I said I would do, how often does your words and actions match?  Do you say what you mean and mean what you say and then show it through your actions?  Need generalized examples???  Saying you love someone or something but never invest time or money; saying you want to be healthy but eat unhealthy foods and never exercise; etc.  Now listen, I know that circumstances can happen or come up, but you must match your words with action at home; at work; at church; at school; at play; in all areas of your life!  Your loved ones, employees/employers, students/teachers/mentors, business/customer/client/vendor, etc. deserved it; and so do you!!  Remember, ACTION speaks LOUDER than words!

Now, I must give this game 2 of the NBA Western Conference Series (Portland vs Golden State) my full attention. What a game!!!

Be sure to tune in Saturday, May 25th, 2019 for the next show on https://www.youtube.com/MarilynsCafeSociety.  Also “like”, subscribe, share, and/or follow my social media platforms at marilynscafesoc on Twitter; Marilyn’s Café Society on Facebook, YouTube; and marilynscafesociety.com.  Peace.

Live. Laugh. Love.

Marilyn

Remembering Mama

Happy Mother’s Day everyone!

I hope that you all had a beautiful day with your loved ones.

This is the third year that my siblings and I have been without our mother on Mother’s Day.  I can tell you that there are no words to describe how much we are missing her.  We are missing her voice, her laughter, her talk, her fussing, her cooking, her smile, her physical presence and essence, just everything.  Listen you all, take in everything when you’re with your mother and father because you will miss everything when they are no longer with you on earth.

During the least expected times, you’ll remember moments that seemed insignificant; lessons that were taught; and things about them that you consciously didn’t notice.  I remember when I was in my teens, my mother started taking us with her to look at houses that were for sale.  Some were located in neighborhoods that we were familiar with but most were in affluent neighborhoods.  We’d ask her, “Mama how are you going to be able to get this big beautiful house?”  Her response was always “God will make a way.”  OR “I believe God will make it happen.”  OR  “I’m putting my faith to work.”  She’d ask the realtor questions.  She’d call banks or mortgage companies and ask about how to finance a home.

My mother would share stories with us about how her grandparents were land/property owners and how she knew that she would be one one day as well.  She said every generation should be better than the last.  She talked about the importance of having more than one way to make money.  My mother sold sweet potatoe pies in a small neighborhood store and the larger community store for a while in an effort to bring more money into the household.

By the time I was in my early 30s, my mother had mortgages on three properties and a profitable home day care business.  My mother tried her best to change the trajectory of her life and her children’s lives.  Early on, she knew that the odds were stacked up against us so she taught us about the goodness of our Heavenly Father and how he blesses us no matter how anyone feels about us.  She taught us how to pray.  She taught us to hold our heads up and to walk with confidence especially when we were not feeling so confident because God was with us, in us.  She showed us how to put our Faith to Work so that we could defeat the odds or negative forces and societal limitations.  My mother wasn’t perfect but she was/is a “wonder woman” who loved us.

There is so much more to share as I continue to remember my mother.  I’ll save the rest for later blogs.

Be sure to tune in Saturday, May 18th, 2019 for the next show on https://www.youtube.com/MarilynsCafeSociety.  Also “like”, subscribe, share, and/or follow my social media platforms at marilynscafesoc on Twitter; Marilyn’s Café Society on Facebook, YouTube; and marilynscafesociety.com.

Peace.

Live. Laugh. Love.

Marilyn

Whoomp! There One Is.

What’s happening?

Today is Sunday, May 5th, (Cinco de Mayo) and I’m still attempting to get this blog done!

Initially, I was going to share thoughts and information about gemstones after attending an EFFY Trunk show this past week.  By Thursday, I was ready to weigh in on the recent Facebook ban of extremists, Alex Jones, Milo Yiannopoulis, Minister Louis Farrakhan, and others whose views/voices has been deemed hateful and too inflammatory.  And, just yesterday, I was pretty sure that I had more to say about the evolution of beauty standards.

Needless to say, after getting caught up in last night’s NBA playoff series, Golden State Warriors vs. Houston Rockets (what a game!!!), I didn’t write about anything.  Even  now, I struggle to settle on one of the above mentioned topics, as I half watch the Portland vs. Denver series and learn that Steph Curry has a brother that also plays in the NBA.

So listen, I have concluded that it is okay NOT to have something to say every time.  Better yet, it is okay NOT to share everything that you think or believe all the time.  Also, if you change your mind later and decide to share your thoughts with the world, that’s okay too as long as you’re not spewing hate, divisiveness, and provoking violence.

Whoomp!  There one is.

Be sure to tune in Saturday, May 11th, 2019 for the next show on https://www.youtube.com/MarilynsCafeSociety.  Also “like”, subscribe, share, and/or follow my social media platforms at marilynscafesoc on Twitter; Marilyn’s Café Society on Facebook, YouTube; and marilynscafesociety.com.  Peace.

Live. Laugh. LOVE.

Marilyn

Abundance

Hey Everyone.  I hope that all is good with you all and that you are experiencing abundance in all areas of your life.

Yes! Abundance.  On Thursday, I made the word abundance the word for the day on my social media.  Why,  you ask?  Well, first of all, just in general, I fully believe in abundant living.  I undoubtedly believe that our divine creator created us (humans), earth, and the entire universe with plentifulness in mind.  Think about the number of stars; the depths of the oceans; the vastness of the sky/universe; and, the number of hairs on our head and cells in our bodies!

Secondly, while prepping for today’s show earlier this week, I couldn’t help but notice a common undertone of “lack”, “limits” and “scarcity” in certain news reports that I read.  It compelled me to just say it—abundance! Listen, we have an ample supply of everything from food, water, air, to love, joy, peace, etc.  Abundance–the opposite of scarcity.  More than enough of the tangible and intangible.  Abundance!

Okay, I’ll stop.  Oh wait!  One more time.  God has given us every good thing that we need and want in an overflowing supply.  Wisdom.  Knowledge. Our cups runneth over!  I don’t know about you but abundant living is mine! Blessed to be a blessing.

Hey, did you catch today’s show?  It was delayed due to the Macy’s I.N.C. International Concepts Fashion Show that I walked in.  Here’s a couple pictures from the dressing room.

 

I’ll post a few from the actual fashion show on social media in a day or so.

Be sure to tune in Saturday, May 4th, 2019 for the next show on https://www.youtube.com/MarilynsCafeSociety.  Be sure to “like”, subscribe, share, and/or follow my social media platforms at marilynscafesoc on Twitter; Marilyn’s Café Society on Facebook, YouTube; and marilynscafesociety.com.  Peace.

Live. Laugh. Love.

Marilyn

Wonder Women

Hello you all.  I hope that you are having a “wonder”ful week.  I am good for the most part and making progress on the goals that I’ve set.

So, as I grabbed my laptop and coffee to begin writing this week’s blog, I remembered that today was the day that Wendy Williams was going to have the sit down with Hip Hop Journalist, Dee Barnes.   Those who have been with me and Marilyn’s Café Society for a while know that I grew up loving and appreciating most music including Hip Hop/Rap.   Needless to say, I quickly tuned in and began typing the blog.  When the Dee Barnes segment started, I gave the show my full attention.  I wanted to hear her speak; hear her full story; hear that she is now okay.  I also wanted to hear how Wendy would handle the talk with Dee.  And, she did not disappoint   Wendy and Dee left us wanting to know, hear more of the story!

If you have no idea what I’m talking about, here’s the back story.  Dee Barnes is a pioneer Hip Hop artist and television host who was brutally beaten in the early 1990s by Hip Hop Icon, Dr. Dre because he was offended about how his group was portrayed in an interview that was conducted by Dee.  (For the record, Dr. Dre is a changed man and has publicly apologized to all the women he abused in his past.)  Now back to Dee, apparently, the backlash of the interview and the altercation resulted in Dee being black balled in the industry which led to the ending of her career.  Over the years, she has been relegated to minimum wage jobs and infrequent freelance work.  More recently, she faced eviction from her apartment so she started a GoFundme page and went public with her situation.  This all got Wendy’s attention and resulted in today’s talk segment on the Wendy Williams show.

While watching Dee attempt to talk today about what happened to her, I couldn’t help but think about that question that has plagued the black community and, quite frankly, society in general.  How can a man speak and be so violent toward, disrespectful to, and dismissive of their human counterpart, their gift from God—woman?  And, more importantly, how could other women know about it and remain silent OR, worse, go along with it?  Since this is a question that has been raised from way back when, many have attempted to answer it.  The most popular answer that I’ve heard so far is this—many are concerned about their own social and economic standing.  They don’t want to be shunned or black balled too.  They don’t want to be the next victim so, they say nothing OR simply go along with it.

But God!!!!  I know some of you all get tired of me bringing up God but how could you not see him operate in this despicable story.  Dee was kept!  God gave her the strength and courage to say something about her situation which, again, led to the outpouring of support that she is NOW receiving.  I curtsy Wendy Williams for shining the light on Dee Barnes’ story and giving her and her daughter a place to live.  I also raise my glass to Wendy for putting on her “Wonder Woman” business cape and offering her (Dee) a publishing and movie deal.  #LikeABoss The results of this “lift” for Dee Barnes will no doubt change her life.  She will now have financial security for her future and the future of her children.  I trust that Wendy will fair well too. Blessings Abound with God Speed for both women.

Well, what a “wonder”!  I ended up writing a completely different blog today.  This is it!

Hey remember to tune in Saturday, April 20th, 2019 for the next show on https://www.youtube.com/MarilynsCafeSociety.  Be sure to “like”, subscribe, share, and/or follow my social media platforms at marilynscafesoc on Twitter; Marilyn’s Café Society on Facebook, YouTube; and marilynscafesociety.com.  Peace.

Live. Laugh. Love.

Marilyn

Beautiful Body

Hey there!

A picture landed in my social media this past weekend.  I discovered that it’s something that has been floating around for a couple of years now.  It was a picture of few people standing in the pews of a church but the focus of the shot was on a young lady who was wearing a sweater dress that fully covered her body.  Sounds appropriate, right?  Well, here’s how some of the comments about the photo read-

“I bet the church mothers let her have it for wearing that dress.”

“What was she thinking?”

“Who wants what she’s selling?”

“This dress is not appropriate for church!”

You get the picture? {Pardon the pun.}  So the problem was not solely the dress.  I know for sure that if a physically less endowed woman wore the same dress, there would not have been a problem. The woman in the photo was ”stacked”, “curvy”, or as the Commodores sang…”36-24-36–A Brick House”.  LoL!  Seriously, the male and female human body is beautiful.  Some are just near perfection!  And, not just on the outside but also inside.  The human body is an amazing super machine made by God.  The source of the negative or critical response some had with this woman wearing the dress to church is their acute awareness of the beauty of the woman’s body.  The overwhelming beauty caused them to become uncomfortable.  It doesn’t matter if the dress was worn in the church or the club.  The response would have been the same.   It’s like the days when the sun is fully shining.  We enjoy the beauty of the sun and the energy it exudes but it is difficult to look directly at it because it’s soo powerfully beautiful!  So, let’s respond to the comments and questions that I repeated on this blog.

First of all, why would the church mothers (the seasoned Christians) be so judgmental and condemning of the young lady?  Why would they want to shame her for being so beautiful.  Is that how Jesus would handle her? No.  He would probably compliment her beauty and then recommend a more modest attire for the church house.  Secondly, the young lady honestly may not have given any thought to wearing that particular dress to church—a spiritual, religious place. Or perhaps she didn’t have anything else to wear.  Or perhaps she put the dress on and thought, I’m beautiful so I’m going to wear it but not realizing she and the dress would be a distraction.  Or, perhaps she was expecting the more seasoned saints to appreciate her God-given beautiful body without sexualizing and/or judging her.

Was she selling sex by wearing the dress?  I don’t know her to say.  Again, she may have innocently thought that she was cute.  Neverthless, those who have been “churched” from childhood or young adulthood were taught to dress modestly.  Ok, just in everyday life many of us (women) were taught by our parents to dress modestly period as a means of self-protection because to some our beautiful bodies can be reduced to sexual objects.

Lastly, as I stated earlier, had the dress been worn by a less endowed woman, there would not be a discussion.  However, the church is a spiritual place.  People congregate there to connect with God.  They are all on different levels of their spiritual journey so one could see your beautiful body and not get aroused or distracted; while another person that is not spiritually mature would objectify you sexually and become very distracted.  I advise women to maintain a level of modesty when dressing for church and life.  Those with exceptionally beautiful bodies must protect themselves.  In our youth, and especially for those who love fashion even as we age, it’s difficult to dial back sometimes.  It’s just fashion for goodness sake!  Right?!  No.  Listen, despite having a God given beautifully made body, you may not be able to wear a particular style/fashion of dress and if you do, you must cover creatively.

Remember to tune in Saturday, April 13th, 2019 for the next show here https://www.youtube.com/MarilynsCafeSociety.  Be sure to “like”, subscribe, share, and/or follow my social media platforms at marilynscafesoc on Twitter; Marilyn’s Café Society on Facebook, YouTube; and marilynscafesociety.com.  Peace.

Live. Laugh. Love.

Marilyn